I Don't Believe In Natural Family Planning

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Why natural family planning strikes me as ridiculous.

Growing up, my parents taught me that sex was only for marriage, kids were the purpose of marriage and, contraception? Well, that thwarted God's plan for kids and marriage.

My parents had eight children in the span of 15 years. My oldest sister and I were born when my dad was still in law school. My parents wanted to wait, but the method of contraception they used was natural family planning. It didn't work. This made the early years, when we were younger, a strain. I frequently remember my parents arguing about how to discipline us, how to raise us and then there was the stress of feeding us, buying us clothes. It was harder before it got better and I often envy my younger siblings, who never saw that side of my parents. They weren't bad parents. We did have a lot of fun (my mom let us play hide-and-go-seek in the dark, in the house!) but having six kids by the time you are 35 would wear anyone down. And while my parents love each one of us and never made us feel like we weren't wanted, there is no doubt that eight kids caused a strain on their relationship. The Top 5 Challenges Of Natural Family Planning

And it's not just my parents who experienced the strain that natural family planning can have on a couple. Two former natural family planning advocates, Bethany and Sam Torode, recently divorced and have changed their views on contraceptives. A New York Times article about the couple quotes a statement the couple wrote about their shifting perspective on NFP: "'Wanting to make love to your spouse often is a good thing, but NFP often lays an unfair burden of 'guilt on men for feeling this,' the Torodes wrote. And it is "a theological attack on women to always require that abstinence during the time of the wife's peak sexual desire (ovulation) for the entire duration of her fertile life, except for the handful of times when she conceives.'"

I couldn't agree more. Truthfully, I love all of my siblings and I love that I grew up in a big family. But being one of eight showed me how big of a responsibility kids are. It also showed me that I wanted to wait until I (and my relationship) was good and ready. When I got married, I bought a year's supply of the pill. I would have snorted powdered Tri-Cyclen if I thought it would help. My husband and I didn't want kids, not then and at the time, we weren't sure if we ever really would want them. And call us selfish, but we wanted to take a few trips, save some money, and spend some time figuring out how to be married before we added in the TNT of kids. 5 Ways to Balance Marriage, Kids, Work, Home and Health

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