There's a reason the majority of the female population is swooning over Ryan Gosling. No, I'm not talking about those blue eyes, that bizarre charm of his or even the fact that he recently said "I think like a girl." Maybe it's because we can't have him… and because we don't know if we ever can?
The University of Virginia decided they wanted to see exactly what the hell is going on inside a woman's brain when it comes to the type of men to whom they're attracted. The study took a group of college women and showed them the Facebook profiles of four male students who had looked at their profiles, and were told that the fellas had made a decision about them — solely based on looks, of course, because how much of one's personality can you detect from a Facebook profile? Oh, great, they think Fleet Foxes are badass and their favorite book is The God Delusion… and look! They like to do shots off their roommate's sleeping body… cute! But I digress. 40 Ways To Get In The Mood For Sex
The three levels of likability that the women were given were "(a) the guy liked them a lot, (b) the guy liked them only an average amount, or (c) the guy liked them either a lot or an average amount (uncertain condition).”
Guess what? Most women were attracted to option c.
As my buddy Scott Alden over at HowAboutWe, where I first saw this study, (OK, I don't know the fella, but I think we could have few debates on certain subjects) was quick to point out, this isn't about the mentality of women wanting what they can't have, but rather women wanting what they're unsure they can have. Alden, in all his infinite wisdom, has a theory based "solely on anecdotal evidence," to use his words: "Women don't want to just be accepted for who they are, but they don't want to be mistreated either. They just want to earn what they get." Love Bytes: How To Spot An Emotional Vampire
I'm a woman, or at least I was the last time I looked down at my perfect breasts, and while I'm sure my feelings on the subject don't represent all women's opinions, I'm going to assume at least someone out there is going to agree.