"No serious interests, but I'm always interested…" – Marilyn Monroe, when asked if she was dating or in love.
"Jackie had more men per square inch than any woman I have ever known." – Letitia Baldrige
Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis and Marilyn Monroe were two of the most famous women of the 20th Century, and even today, their celebrity and glamour is so absolute that they are still known by their first names, "Jackie" and "Marilyn."
Marilyn and Jackie were World Class when it came to interpersonal relationships. And you can bet that neither Jackie nor Marilyn ever fell into the demeaning He's Just Not That Into You single-gal construct that has been mythologically created today. Whether dating, navigating marriage, dealing with a director or meeting Nikita Khrushchev, Marilyn and Jackie always had the upper hand in relations with the opposite sex.
Here's a few relationship tips modern women can learn from these two icons:
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Perhaps the single greatest mistake women make today is acting as if you are married (or engaged) before the ring is on your finger. Instead, take a tip from your mothers or grandmothers and do like Jackie and Marilyn:
- Date a ton of men at once. As an aspiring starlet in Hollywood, Marilyn routinely scheduled three dates a day—that's drinks, dinner and late-night dancing with three separate beaux. While being courted by then-Senator Kennedy, Jackie was engaged to John Husted, a stockbroker in New York City. "Don't believe all that stuff you hear about Jack Kennedy," she assured him. The Sex You Should Have Before Settling Down
- Discretion is the better part of valor. Or something like that… by which we mean—until you get engaged, mum's the word on who you might be dating, or serious about. This means: no Facebook relationship status updates (boring…), no tweeting about the super-romantic dinner you had last night. Nothing, nada, zip.
- If it's not working for you, split. Dating and courtship are supposed to be the fun parts of the relationship! Keep your eyes open, allow him to reveal his hand and if you are not happy (for whatever reason), leave. If it is not fun after the first six months of dating, imagine what it will be like in twenty years! A corollary to this: Not to get too Oprah, but, when someone tells you who he is—believe him. Use your innate Jackie conversational gambits and draw out your possible partner… to find out what his goals are, how he sees his place in the world, where you fit into the picture. As a bonus: all men love to talk about themselves, and you will gain a reputation as a scintillating conversationalist.