When I got married, I wore a white dress, carried Pink flowers, toasted with a bubbly drink in fluted glasses, but I didn't get married in a church. I chose not to get married in a church, because at that time in my life, church was not a place I felt at home. Yet, despite the lack of the of a church, my marriage ceremony had significantly religious overtones. Scripture was read, there was prayer, and after my brother forgot his tuxedo the name of the Lord was called several times. Why Marriage Matters
According to SmartMarriages, about 70 percent of couples get married in a church. Yet, how did marriage and religion become so closely intertwined? Despite what you may think, marriage didn't start off as a $30,000 religious ceremony. If the Bible is to be believed, the first marriage took place without a $10,000 dollar Vera Wang dress. The bride and the groom were in the nude and consummated their union by hanging out with a snake (not a double entendre). After being kicked out from the Garden of Eden, Adam's descendants had complicated marital relationships often involving more than one wife and several concubines (I'm looking at you King Solomon). Marriage: Sacred Or Smashed Institution?
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In more recent history, Western European marriages started out as a business contract to establish hereditary lines. According to the book The History of Human Marriage, in the early Christian era, marriage was considered a private matter not regulated by the church or the sate. In fact, the church didn't fully take over the business of marriage until 1563 at the Council of Trent. Religion and marriage, in the context of history, seem to be newlyweds. Finding God in Sex
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So why do we insist on involving religion in the discussion of marriage?
In the Iowa Supreme Court decision granting same-sex couples the right to marry, Justice Mark Cady wrote: