How To Deal With An Inappropriate Crush

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Inappropriate crushes can be dangerous. 3 steps to take when you crush on someone you shouldn't.

It happens to the best of us. One day, we're eying regular guys as per usual, and then—BAM!—we start crushing on someone who probably doesn't belong with us: our best friend's boyfriend, the dreamy, barely-legal part-time assistant or the doctor for whom we are tempted to invent aches and pains. Thanks to the forbidden fruit factor, inappropriate crushes are often more potent than the average ones, and thus require special attention to either eradicate or indulge. Ways To Let Go Of An Emotional Love Affair

First, try to cool off a bit. We all know that romance, especially of the illicit nature, impedes judgment. Regardless of how intoxicated you are by the fantasy that everything will magically work out, it's important to keep a fun little crush in check, lest it mushroom into this uncontrollable, unreciprocated desire for somebody who has no interest in a complicated relationship.

Next, evaluate the inappropriateness of your crush. As yourself why this person is off-limits: is it because your feelings violate some moral standard, or is it because your status as a couple invites a social stigma? For example, crushing on a coworker eight years your junior does not fall under the same level of "wrong" that crushing on your sister's husband does. In the case of the former, it might be less wrong than it is complicated. Regardless of who you're crushing on, we recommend that you comfirm someone's availability before taking the plunge. 10 Things Not To Say To A Co-Worker Crush


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