It's not news that sexual fluidity has been working its way into the mainstream. We all know the girl who experimented in college and then went back to guys, or the middle-aged woman who left her husband for some turquoise artisan in Taos named Deborah.
Both seem to be examples of the stronger sexual preference winning out in the end. But more and more, it's becoming acceptable for women to "hop the fence"—that is, to make the occasional gender switch-up in casual sex and in long-term relationships. I know, 'cause I'm one of 'em.
Although I'd always privately identified as bisexual, I'd only dated boys before I met a girl I had instant chemistry with. We had an amazing, insanely sexy couple of months, but we wanted different things out of a partner, and things fizzled in the natural way romantic relationships of either persuasion do. Lemondrop: 10 Things Guys Don't Get About Women
The next person I dated happened to be a guy, and it was wildly irritating when my parents and friends—who had been supportive of my dating a girl, if dubious—acted vindicated. I wasn't bisexual, they thought—I was just going through a phase. When I dated another girl a year later, they were more respectful of the fact that it was an actual relationship. This, apparently, was how it was going to be. Lemondrop: How To Talk Sex With Your Mom
More and more of us are deciding to shirk traditional definitions of sexuality in favor of doing what feels natural. We all know a girl who says she's always been attracted to other women but has never really done anything about it, save the occasional bar make-out or session spent watching girl-on-girl porn. So why don't more women act on it?
I'm Bisexual. No, Really.
First, I think there's a stigma attached to bisexuality. Sure, I got a lot of flak from my friends ("Oh, having the obligatory lesbian fling? How second-season-of-'The-O.C.'") and my parents ("But you've always liked boys! Is this because we sent you to art school?"), but I also got a surprising amount of stink-eye from my girlfriend's lesbian friends.
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