3 Ways To Change Your Bad Dating Attitude
Single and don't want to be? Three ways to change your bad dating attitude into "atta-girl."
Face it: Being single isn't always empowering and fun. Sure, you get all that "me time" to read a new novel, focus on work, apply a deep-cleansing mask when no one is looking or reconnect with girlfriends over cocktails. Still, being single can make you feel frustrated, angry, not worthy of love and even hopeless. That bad attitude could also be the reason you're single. 5 Things Single Women Hate To Hear
In her new book, Meeting Your Half-Orange, author Amy Spencer says that being positive about yourself and your crazy dating life can change your emotional brain.
"By changing your thoughts in a determined way, you can actually create a permanent change in your brain, which can effectively change your entire emotional experience with dating and love," explains Spencer. It has to do with the new field of neuroplasticity—"the idea that the neural pathways in your brain can be unwired and re-wired to ultimately change how your brain responds to sensory data."
Yes, you read that right. You can actually train your brain to be more positive about dating. This means that your body language and your internal energy will transform, too, attracting good things and, ahem, good guys. Here, three attitude-changing tips to try.
Look the part: Maybe red lipstick makes you feel sexy. Perhaps a sleek ballerina bun brings out your eyes. New shoes could be your secret weapon, too. I'm a huge fan of dark, manicured nails. Point is, when you look good, you feel good. "It's not because the world is kind to people with good hair. It's because YOU feel good about your hair. So good, in fact, you smile more. The positive emotions are creating positive feelings throughout your body that attract other positive things," writes Spencer.
Stop lying to yourself: Trust me, I've lied to myself too. I've told myself I am perfectly content with my beautiful, blonde 2-year-old son and my sexy magazine career. I've called myself the mom version of Carrie Bradshaw just to up my fabulous single status. Newsflash: Carrie married Mr. Big in the Sex and the City movie. So, yeah, I'm a big, fat liar. I want a husband. I want more kids. I want a golden retriever for those kids to play with. According to Spencer, admitting this is key. "Being single definitely wasn't always the best, but I felt I had to say that [I was happy being single]. Why? Because I felt there was nothing sorrier than a single girl who wished she wasn't." This is insane, people. Spencer is right. If you want a boyfriend, admit it. Tell the universe what you want and it will come to you. Not into the Secret? Do it anyway—trust me.
Too often women engage in negative self talk. This advice is right on. I would also add dress cute because you never know when yuo are going to run into a guy you would like to get to know better. If you will forgive this man's advice on getting guys, wear a flirty denim mini skirt most of the time when you are out instead of jeans or worse yet sweats.
If you see a guy you want to talk to in addition to smiling at him it does not hurt to give him a quick panty flash. Now don't beat me up girls, I am just telling you what guys like. While we are on the subject of panties, please ladies get rid of those deadly dull boring and virginal white nylon panties with no lace. Guys like to see color and lace. Just saying
If I had followed your advice there is no way I would have been married to the man I am married to today. In fact, he said one of the reasons he was attracted to me was because I had self respect and didn't go around doing things like that.
If you flash panties, you'll attract a guy for sure. The question is, will he be a quality guy?
I think so many women come off as "not looking" when they are. It's important to tell people that you are looking and you are willing to go out on dates and be set up. It happens to men too.
I have a friend who was so depressed because he couldn't find a lady, but he spent all his time at work and paid no attention to the single ladies around him. He wasn't super interested in them, but still he did not send out "looking" vibes. I set him up on a few dates and when the word got around that he was "looking" he started getting more dates. None of the ladies I set him up with were "the one" but it got him started down the dating path and now he's planning his wedding.
