Face it: Being single isn't always empowering and fun. Sure, you get all that "me time" to read a new novel, focus on work, apply a deep-cleansing mask when no one is looking or reconnect with girlfriends over cocktails. Still, being single can make you feel frustrated, angry, not worthy of love and even hopeless. That bad attitude could also be the reason you're single. 5 Things Single Women Hate To Hear
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"By changing your thoughts in a determined way, you can actually create a permanent change in your brain, which can effectively change your entire emotional experience with dating and love," explains Spencer. It has to do with the new field of neuroplasticity—"the idea that the neural pathways in your brain can be unwired and re-wired to ultimately change how your brain responds to sensory data."
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Yes, you read that right. You can actually train your brain to be more positive about dating. This means that your body language and your internal energy will transform, too, attracting good things and, ahem, good guys. Here, three attitude-changing tips to try.
Look the part: Maybe red lipstick makes you feel sexy. Perhaps a sleek ballerina bun brings out your eyes. New shoes could be your secret weapon, too. I'm a huge fan of dark, manicured nails. Point is, when you look good, you feel good. "It's not because the world is kind to people with good hair. It's because YOU feel good about your hair. So good, in fact, you smile more. The positive emotions are creating positive feelings throughout your body that attract other positive things," writes Spencer.