These blunders are seriously killing the mood, fellas.
One of the many challenges men have is to decide on what positions to use when trying to please a woman in bed. The biggest fear is often that the woman will get bored with the "same old, same old" and as a result lose interest in sex. So the question becomes, "What are the best sexual positions?"
The best way to explain this is to actually talk about what NOT to do. With that in mind, here are the top five mistakes guys make when it comes to sex positions, so you won't continue making them.
1. Imitating Anything Seen In Porn
This is probably the biggest reason that guys fail with sexual positions. Inexperienced guys think porn is a good model because they see studs having sex with beautiful girls and they just don't know any better. The problem is that sexual positions in those sorts of movies try to display a good scene for viewers, namely men, not maximize pleasure for the actors.
And in fact, one of the WORST positions for clitoral and vaginal stimulation that is often seen in porn is when the woman puts her ankles on your shoulders. With her pelvis bent back that far, she can feel pain in her cervix if you push in too far. Plus it's a position that puts a lot pressure on her.
2. Trying Too Hard To Keep Your Weight Off Her
To a woman, sex is a way to get closer to her man. She loves it when he leans on the underside of her thighs. So here's a tip for you to try. Next time you're having sex with your woman, put a little more of your weight on her and see what pressure she responds to best. You see, during sex, almost every woman enjoys feeling her man's body pressed hard against her.
So how much weight should you put on her? Make it enough so that after the sexual frenzy dissipates, your woman will tell you that she feels like she's being squished. Of course, do this within limits! If you're on top off her grinding her pubic bone for too long, it can feel painful for her.
But the bottom line is that many, many women like pressure from at least some of the man's weight.
3. Letting Her Do All The Work When She's On Top
For most women, sex on top is great because they can control the speed and angle of penetration, but that doesn't mean she wants you to just lay there!
4. Being A Wimp
A lot of guys have read too many "Men Are From Mars" type books and think women like it if you ask permission for everything and let them take the lead. Be the alpha male instead and just "do it." Flip her over, move her here and there. Be a little aggressive when you want to change positions, and she'll LOVE the passion! And don't worry about it. If something is going on that the woman doesn't like, she'll let you know.
5. Thinking Trickier Positions Are "Better"
You don't need to hang upside down and do something crazy. An old standby like Missionary (man on top, woman lying on her back) is the best sexual position for some couples.