Hey, Guys - Sexy or Slutty?

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Hey, Guys - Sexy or Slutty?

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Name: jessica |  Location: New York , NY |Question:   
I consider myself an intelligent young woman, I come from a great family which
embedded good values in me, at the same time (and I know that one doesn't
exclude the other) there is this side to me where I want to do some semi-kinky
things when I am alone with my boyfriend. I mean I'm not into anything that
requires a trip to a sex shop (at least not for something “advanced”), but I
like to go down on him and say have him stand in the middle of the room while I
am underneath giving him oral sex and watching his face, or to be generally
active and passionate. I know for most men it would sound great, but I feel
like, if I do that, my boyfriend whom I love and feel very close to, might lose
a fraction of respect for me. I know, in theory my desire to do things of that
sort sounds perfect, and most men would like that, especially that I actually
enjoy doing it, because I love my BF and for me it's not just something
physical/sexual, but also, if not more- emotional -to give him that type of
pleasure. However, I feel like most men would think they would like that in
their long term relationships, but they are not aware that on some subconscious
level they will lose some respect and/or that "I worship/adore you" sensation
they may be feeling for you, especially when they consider you for their future
wife and mother of their children.

Besides, with oral sex, I feel like if a
woman is good at it, a man will naturally want more, especially if the women
enjoys doing it. And so could it be that there will be a point where he'll take
oral over intercourse most of the time? Am I wrong? Is it possible to be both
an angel outside your bedroom and devil in bed? Will the person you are
committed to be able to see you as an angel/lady/whatever once you show
them/keep showing them your devil side? Where is the line between being
intelligent but also passionate/uninhibited significant other and just somewhat
of a whore? Thanks for your feedback. |Age: 27

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my definition, what makes someone "slutty" is the lack of concern for
their reputation and well being and/or hands over control of the
situation to the other person . Someone who engages in unprotected sex
with a brand new partner (and yeah, don't care if they told you they
had just been tested) just because bareback sex feels better, to me, is
slutty. Someone who works their way through a group of friends, having
sex with all of them, who gets pissed when they hear that the friends
now deem them "easy" is "slutty" to me. In the latter situation, the
person is allowing what those other people think of them to control how
they feel about themselves. Basically, someone who dismisses common
sense, standards and control just to have sex is acting "slutty."

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