Being an oral goddess may not be your top priority, but it's a pretty handy (or, er, mouthy) skill to have. After all, who doesn't want to be the kind of gal whose mere memory can bring a wistful smile to any ex's face? And if that doesn't convince you to upgrade your oral game, consider the benefits of potential reciprocity.

Check out these expert tips from research sexologist, sex journalist, Lemondrop contributor and The Sex Bible author Susan Crain Bakos. Going dowwwwwwwwwwn ...

Putting On the Condom
If this isn't your long-term guy, he should be wearing a condom. And while he can probably put it on with his eyes closed it's sexier if you do it ... with your mouth.

Bakos advises rubbing a small amount of lubricant onto him before putting a non-lubricated condom, tip facing in, in your mouth with the the ring in front of your teeth. Use your tongue to keep the tip in place against the roof of your mouth as you lower your head and use your lips to gently unroll the condom down the shaft. Lemondrop: How To Make A Sex Tape

The Lead-Up
Kiss and lick his inner thighs while you tease his testicles—lightly scratch, pull, roll them around, and pull them one at a time in your mouth. While you're attending to his balls, run your fingers up and down his shaft.

"Once he's erect, get comfortable, either kneeling beside him, between his legs or perpendicular to his body. Or bring him to the edge of the bed and kneel on the floor. Wet your lips and be sure that your lips cover your teeth. Run your tongue around the head of his penis to moisten it." 

The Basics
"Hold the base of his penis firmly in one hand," Bakos continues. "With the other hand, form a circle of your thumb and forefinger—what sex expert Lou Paget calls 'the ring and the seal'—to prevent him from going in further than you would like. Twist that hand along the shaft as you move your mouth up and down."

The Extras
Bakos recommends swirling your tongue around the head, then working it in long strokes up and down the shaft. Lick along the ridge of the corona (the ridge connecting head and shaft) while working the shaft with your hands.

"Strum the frenulum (the elastic band of tissue on the underside of the shaft) with your tongue, then lick the raphe (the seam on the underside of the shaft, continuing into the scrotum). Do at least 10 or 20 seconds of this showy move: Repeatedly pull his penis into your mouth, then push it out, using suction, while keeping that tongue in motion.

Bakos also recommends making eye contact from time to time, which will help you connect with your partner. Lemondrop: Can a Guy Be Too Small for Sex?