(As written by a stripper.)
As an exotic dancer and a woman with a male partner, I really can't understand it. I meet guys at the strip club all the time who either lie to their partners about where they are, or just lie by omission.
I get it — you don't want to cause a big argument, which will probably result in you getting less sex than you're already getting, right? What I don't get are most women's attitudes about strip clubs.
If you're one of these guys, here are a few tips to get your woman to loosen up about the whole issue.
1. Tell her that it's actually a benefit to her.
When you come home from a strip club after NOT cheating on her (because, after all, going to a strip club is not cheating), you are going to be really horny and willing to be her sex slave for hours.
2. Educate her on the personal lives of strippers.
Contrary to some women's beliefs, strippers are actually not prostitutes. And 99 percent of them (in my experience) either have a boyfriend, a girlfriend, or a husband that they are faithful to.
3. Let her know strip clubs are the safest place for you.
It's true. The chances you could get laid at a strip club? Close to none. There's a bouncer right there who walks her to her car at the end of the night, alone. The chances that you could end up getting laid at a bar if you wanted to? Not bad.
There is an exception to this rule. If you go to certain strip clubs in Providence, Rhode Island, prostitution does occur. If you want to maintain any credibility with your lover, you cannot go to those clubs.
4. Bring her to the strip club with you.
Something like more than half of women have sexual feelings toward other women (which does not, in most cases, mean that they are gay). Go to the stage together. Get a lap dance together.
Bringing her to a strip club will benefit you in two ways: she'll get to see that it's not the free-for-all she probably imagines it is, and she'll get really turned on, leading to you two having hot sex at home (if you make it that far!) afterward.
5. Remind her that it's all just fantasy.
No matter how much you, as a normal man, can appreciate the sex appeal of other women, they are just a fantasy. Your woman is the real the thing, the one you want to come home to, and the one you do come home to every night.