What Do Men Think About Friends With Benefits?
Are guys into sex buddies?
You're drunk. Or lonely. Or just plain bored. And you've already got this guy programmed into your phone. So should you try to turn your best buddy into your bed buddy? We asked guys: "What do you think of friends with benefits?"
"Are you kidding?. If we had this all the time, we would never have to get married."
--John, 36, Actor
"It's cool, but it always ends up shitty for someone."
--John, 32, Professor
"It's the best. It's like a consolation prize whenever you strike out."
--Adam, 28, Carpenter
"I'm ok with it to an extent, but it always gets complicated."
--Andy, 32, Police officer
"I never thought it was for me, but I've found—to my surprise—it's for me. It's difficult to do well, but if you can do it well, it's great."
--Marc, 38, Child psychologist.
Discussion
It's all about what u can accept. Personally, i tried the "friend's with benefits" and it was great. but once feelings got involved and trying to change it into something more only proved to me...that's all i was to him......and could not be anything more. the convenience of it all meant not committment. sigh, oh well. live & learn
No, there isn't anything "wrong" with you but your contempt for other women is apparent. By using terms such as "wifie" you are stating your true feelings about the situation. By asking what is "wrong" with you, you are really asking for validation on your actions.
YOU would prefer to be with this guy and any other woman who IS actually with him is called "wifie" by women like you.
What I'm reading is this: You aren't having any sort of "friends with benefits" because there is no such thing. People convince themselves that this situation is "real" or heaven forbid, relevant , when actually, it usually ends up with the scenario you are describing.
If this guy "has two other women" - as you've stated and one of them thinks they're in a serious relationship with him? Then he is having a good ol' time, indeed. That is, to most sensible people who've lived long enough and know that romance and love or lust isn't that damned complicated, a person who is cheating - and hooray for this guy - he has TWO OF YOU!!!
Congratulations! You are part of this loser's harem. Feel free to argue this point but I think you know I've hit the nail on the head.
Now then, instead of asking random people on the internet if there is something "wrong" with you. Decide what YOU want in your life and your relationships and then behave accordingly.
You say that you talk on the phone like you're girlfriends and then you have sex?!? That is a great relationship and a great foundation to start something that may be what you're both looking for but instead, you've laid down "rules" - such as "friends w/ benefits" - and now you're wasting your time on a situation that already has the door closed on it.
Do you really want to be with a glorified prostitute and do you want your "friend" to think it is ok for you to behave as one as well?
"Friends with benefits" are for those who take life and others for granted. It is for those who are too scared to decide on what they want in life and then go for it.
Is that really you?
So, to re-cap, there is nothing "wrong" with you unless you believe that there is something wrong with you. You are just another regular person who isn't aware they have so many choices spread out in front of them.
Now you know. Live your life for YOU - not by some silly rule made up by others and usually for the "benefit" of others.
I have a friend that I had a crush on in the ninth grade years passed .Now we see each other very often mostly just sex we go on dates but not often .we spend more time as girlfriends on the phone than any thing. I'm cool but sometimes he lets me know that he spends to much time alone. He also has two other women one is in a relationship and the other thinks she is wifie. I know everything and I think that's how I stay clear headed. I like him But I just can't see me taking him serious. He's just cute& sexy. I like my friend with benefits maybe too much like a man. Is ther something wrong with me?