You were once in love—giddy-butterflies-running-amok-in-your-innards type love—but now your toothbrushes spend more intimate time than you do. And you’ve started sharing moments you swore you never would: Fighting over dirty dishes, remote control ownership, and enduring breakfast in stoic silence. But every couple squabbles, and pouts, on occasion, so when is a fight just a fight—and when is it more? According to the experts, there are three telltale signs your bickering may require a third party.
1) You’re Running Avoidance Patterns.
You and your lover were once attached at the proverbial hip, stuck together so intensely you experienced separation anxiety when he rolled to the other side of the bed. But lately, you come home as late as possible and barely brush elbows when you do. Uh-oh, patterns such as these could mean it’s time to seek assistance. “Staying away from home on purpose and turning to anyone but your partner for support,” are other samples of insidious habits that require outside help, says Dr. Terry Orbuch (a.k.a. The Love Doctor), psychologist and research professor at The University of Michigan's Institute for Social Research. What you’re looking to uncover? The reasons you began avoiding each other in the first place.
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