A Girl's Guide to Anal Sex
Get the goods on joining the backdoor betty club.

Dr. Hilda Hutcherson loves sex toys, believes the world is much too pornophobic, and thinks more women should give anal sex a try. In other words, she's the gynecologist every guy wants his girlfriend to meet.
Women who don't enjoy anal sex, she says, are probably doing it wrong. Intrigued, I scheduled an 8am consultation with the doctor to get the goods on joining the backdoor betty club.
I'm pretty sure the butt wasn't made to be penetrated. Is anal sex bad for you?
You're not going to hurt yourself if you follow the rules.
There are official anal sex rules?
You've got to want it. You've got to use lots of lubricant. And you've got to take it slowly.
How much, exactly, is a lot of lube?
You need A LOT. You've got to rub it all over the penis. Then, using your fingers, put the lubricant around the anal opening and up inside.
One of my friends said Astroglide is not good for anal.
Glycerin-based lubes [like Astroglide] don't last long enough. A silicone-based lubricant is going to be a lot better for anal sex. If you use one of the others, you have to stop, put more on, reenter… it's just a mess.
Anal sex is probably a messy endeavor anyway, right?
No, no! I wouldn't say so, but everybody thinks you're going to have feces all over the place.
Really? Because I've heard stories.
Well, if she were constipated, yes. Otherwise, no, not if she has normal bowel functions. The anus does not usually have feces until it's ready to evacuate.
Can all women orgasm from anal sex?
Every woman has the ability to orgasm, physiologically, because the space between her vagina and rectum is so thin that, in the doggie position, the penis is going to press up against her g-spot. Some women find it's the easiest way to stimulate their g-spot.
So is that the position you'd recommend for women during anal?
For those just starting out, I think getting on all fours might be a little too intense, because she doesn't have as much control. Lying on your side in the spooning position won't allow penetration that's as deep. It's also a more relaxing position. When you become more comfortable, the doggie is the easiest way for a woman to orgasm.
Is it possible to hurt her if the penis is thrust too far in?
The penis is only so long! Contrary to what men believe, the average penis is five inches or less, erect. But if you're talking an extra-long toy then, yes, it's possible.
I think I just heard the male ego shatter. I found it interesting to learn that you can lose things in the butt. Does it happen often?
Not often, but it does happen. If people don't use something with a wide base, it can slip in.
In your book, Pleasure: A Women's Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need, and Deserve, you use the phrase, "being sucked in." It's not like a black hole, right? It sounds scary.
No! No! I mean, if something gets sucked in, you have to go to an emergency room most of the time to have it removed.
Discussion
I had never tried anal sex with my ex (nor wanted to) but my current wife encouraged me and I will admit it is very different and she DOES have great orgasms when we anal (me too). Its not something we do all the time, usually she needs a few drinks to loosen up so we plan it. Trust is a huge part of the act. She has to know that if she says ouch or stop that you will. Go slow at first, lots and lots of lube, as things progress see how agressive you both want to proceed. It IS a new and wonderful experience.
To PM2, if its not something either of you really want or enjoy then I suggest you relax and if you decide to later then go for it. Its something special for us and we enjoy it more because of that reason.
My ex was abusive and forced anal on me. It was never meant to be something for us to share pleasure from. Anyway he's history.
I started dating my current boyfriend 8 years ago. after I decided he was the right guy. Kind, caring. I offered him anal sex. He replied he never tried it before. well we attempted it but he couldn't manuever his way in. We never tried it again. Should I offer again or just let it go?
While I've never had any sort of sex before, I say you should try it again. Like the doc said, give it some time. You all may not get there the second or even the third time you all try, but when you do get there it may be well worth it - and if it's not, then at least you all know for sure rather than wondering what your possibly missing out on. As long as both of you are comfortable with it and are on the same page, try giving it another shot.



