Rich & I are coming up on our one year anniversary. It's so exciting! We had both been single for quite awhile before we met each other. The way we met is kind of, what's the word I'm looking for...? Interesting, for lack of better word. We met on Saturday, May 4, 2013 through our mutual friend, Kevin. Kevin is my ex-best friend Nicole's baby-daddy/boyfriend. Kevin and Rich worked together at Lowes. We decided to do a "double-date" to ease the awkwardness of a "blind date". Rich & I actually lived 3 houses away from each other and never knew it. How funny is that?
Romance movies and novels create an impression that love at first sight is the norm in love and relationships are based on high chemistry and strong mutual attraction and feelings. If you're basing your relationship on movies, it's time to relearn what real love looks like.
I was 17 and Fred was 24 when we first met. What began as puppy love grew into a lifelong bond and made me believe in undying love. There were a few times when I second-guessed my decision to marry someone else, but our dynamic made it undeniable: We were meant to be in love with each other, but that didn't necessarily mean we belonged together.
You know the party scene in American Pie where Tara Reid and her curly-haired friend talk about orgasms? Tara says something like: "I've had an orgasm! I think…" and the friend fires back with something sassy like: "Oh, you'd know!" It's the moment during which every teenage girl in every movie theater across America side-gazed at her boyfriend of 3 weeks, wondering if the result of his fumbling backseat groping behind Burger King was or wasn’t her first. That mystery over whether it’s happened or not is how I have always felt about love.
Valentines Day has become so commercialized that men and women are overcome with anxiety, stress, worry, guilt or simply avoidance of potentially not meeting the expectations of a loved one. YIKES! And, if there is no loved one, then what? Is there something wrong with us? Are we unlovable? Unworthy? Unlucky? I’m here to declare NONE OF THAT! Ultimately, we simply are not in the right place at the right time—yet! “Well, that’s just great,” you say.
Everyone was batting for him. My friends really liked him. Brett had all their endorsements. No Surprise. He was smart, understanding, worldly, and had a warm positive presence. Physically he was my type with piercing blue eyes, naturally golden blond hair, Nordic features, and effortlessly athletic with tattoos. He sometimes looked like he just walked out of an Abercrombie & Fitch advertisement. Brett was well traveled, spoke French, and those tattoos only added to his appeal. Did I like him? Yes. So what was the issue?
There can be no true chemistry in a relationship without self-esteem, and when my relationship of six years was officially over, mine was destroyed. I was absolutely ready to be single for the rest of my life. Here’s the lie I told myself: My relationship fell apart because my boyfriend took me for granted. The truth? I didn’t let the bastard go when I should have because I was scared of saying no when he was being a jerk. I took myself for granted. I let myself down.
Jenai Lane, founder of Spirit Coach Training, and author of Spirit Led Instead, trains people and coaches to live from their soul instead of ego. How does she do this? By teaching and training them the tools included in her new book that helps connect a person to their innate wisdom. Another term for this kind of wisdom is called intuition or gut sense, which is often, always right and steers us to our best possible outcome if listened to.
Cinthia Dennis is one of the rare group of love coaches worth investing the time and money in if you live in the San Francisco Bay Area. Luckily for non-locals she also guides individuals to true love via Skype in her NLP coaching practice. Dennis is the creator of the F.L.I.R.T. Course, an NLP based program designed to dissolve resistence to lasting love.
Dating coach Dr. Tina Tessina offers singles an empowering set of tips to finding true love. The tips apply to all ages and will help you determine whether you want a relationship or if you still need to grow. Read on to learn the tips and to see if you're ready for true love!
Dating can be hard if you're trying to find true love, but there are some solid reasons why you're still flying solo. See what you're doing wrong to get it right.
Finding yourself surrounded by happy couples? Whether you're happily or unhappily single, there is one truth about dating that you should know.
We live in a culture of crowdsourcing. I rarely buy a shirt without sending a pic to my stylish BFF and asking what she thinks. But putting back a piece of clothing because she reminds me that it's not my color is different from tossing aside a perfectly lovely guy, one I might really have something special with, based solely on a friend's commentary. For too long, when I considered whether to date someone, my inner voice said something like: "Well, I'm into him. But how will everyone else feel?"
Whether you've been dating a few years or married for decades, true love in a committed relationship is certainly cause to celebrate. But staring at a blank anniversary card and hoping for a poignant quote to pop into your mind kinda takes the fun out of it. So we put together a cheat sheet of beautiful love quotes for your one-in-a-million soul mate. (Shh, we won't tell!)
Tamara Green, LCSW is a Loving Relationship Expert and Love Mentor® trained and certified by Dr. Diana Kirschner, author of Love in 90 Days. Tamara guides singles as they navigate their way towards their true love. Love is easy. It is people who make it complicated. Love is not to be sought or found. Love is allowed into one's life.