Imagine for a moment an adorable puppy who only wants to give affection. The little dog snuggles, gives kisses, and tries to cuddle on your lap. If you're like me you pick up the baby dog and give it a hug, pet, belly rub, and a treat. When Bode came home on Valentine's Day 2012 he was all of 9 weeks old. His ears were still floppy and he was a little ball of fur. Who could resist that? Not I! From that day on Bode has become the most spoiled dog or at least one of them. He was that puppy. Demanding of mutual affection and boy did he ever receive back. Still does.
Meet Cosmo (the big guy), and Milo (his side-kick). Some people call them dogs, but those of us without human offspring, like me, refer to them as their furry, four-footed children. You will be hearing a lot about them in my blog not only because they are my kids but also because they are masters at teaching how to live life with an open heart.
We all have insecurities to some degree. We have days where we wake up ready to conquer the world. Sometimes we have bad days where we suffer from lingering feelings of self-doubt. It’s a part of life. As human beings, it’s natural for us to feel emotion and sometimes those emotions get the best of us, especially in areas of love and relationships. So when does relationship insecurity start to block your chances at love? Relationship Insecurity and New Love This week a reader writes:
The lazy person's roadmap to soulmate love is coming to San Francisco. Thanks to Kathryn Alice, singles in San Francisco have the chance to breakthrough their supposed limits to their soulmate on May 31. My advice: skip it. Alice is offering a 30 minute private session for attendees but seriously .... skip it. Alice's programs lack a foundation of intellect, logic, sound thinking, and reality. I'm all for intuition and being open to surprise and removing limitations but I believe holding on to our hard earned time and money is more important.
Love varies. Sometimes, it's a serious affliction. Other times, love gives you goosebumps. And then there are times when love is outright painful. But right now? Now's the time to celebrate the silliness of love. You know, the adorable goofiness of love. The so-cute-I-can't-stand-it love. We've handpicked these cute love quotes just for the occasion.
While many of us have at least some sort of social networking presence—whether on Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, or a personal blog—most of us stay connected through our cell phones. While the miracles of technology are many (for one, it allows us to stay in touch with our friends and families long-distance), our phones and Facebook profiles can cause some serious dating drama.
Have you been looking for the love of your life for years with no result? Are you frustrated and feel like you must be doing something wrong? Even worse, have you begun believing that it's never going to happen? If this is you, take heart; love could be just around the corner. I know this is true because I experienced this myself in my mid 40's. I had to take a step back and take a good look at how I had been approaching my search for love.
French women seem capable of dancing with a paramour even if it is not the man they love. How is that possible? Je ne sais pas. Perhaps I am too much of a romantic. It seems too impossible. How can you become entangled with a paramour when there is one person out there, who, in the words to a Tina Turner song is simply the best?
“A doubtful friend is worse than a certain enemy. Let a man be one thing or the other, and we then know how to meet him.” – Aesop When you are on your journey toward the love of your life and the life of your dreams who you have around you really does matter. Who is around you, especially in your “inner circle” really matters. One of the reasons why the women who work with us state again and again how important the loving, uplifting, and supportive community of other women is on their journey is because that “inner circle” has influence on you.
I’ve been where you are right now. Years ago, I was single, divorced and looking for love. I remember the disappointment of having yet another relationship end painfully, and worse…the fear that something was wrong with me. One night, after a particularly painful breakup with a man I had been certain was the love of my life, I made what I call my “fetal position decision”. Yep, curled up in the fetal position on my bed, I declared… I was either going to find my soulmate or be a cat lady…
We all grew up reading fairy tales about living happily ever after with our prince or princess charming. We dreamed and longed for the one true love that would bring us eternal happiness. As Snow White tells us, “The birds will sing and wedding bells will ring someday when my dreams come true.”
You’re a woman. You KNOW that we men are visual creatures. What does she look like? Woah-dont get whiplash from that head whipping around! Excuse me-my eyes are up HERE! You’ve seen it happen, may be involved in it happening, and may even do some of it yourself (Ryan Gosling, Maxwell…need I say more?).
It was another Saturday night alone for me as a single woman. I sat in my apartment feeling very alone, unworthy, and rejected. I remember lying there on my bed in the fetal position, after a particularly painful breakup (with a man I had hoped was my soulmate) earlier in the day. The problem was, this scene that I’m describing was not an unusual occurrence in my life. I’d had this happen before. Me, sobbing, writing in my journal, and then calling a girlfriend to do a tear-filled, curse-word-filled, post-mortem on the relationship. Can you relate?