I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. The idea that some women can't ask for what they want, or don't know what they want in the first place, is foreign to me. However, I'm well-aware that I may not be in the majority here. Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky — and that's a crying shame.
I've never been afraid to ask for what I want in bed. I guess because during my teenage years I figured out I was/am a perv and I just owned it. But in my decade-plus of hooking up with dudes, I've come to see being clear about what I want is a bit rare: Guys have told me other women become self-conscious when asking for something risqué or kinky.
Sometimes we have to treat our relationships like a business arrangement. When traditional, lovey-dovey methods of communicating don't seem to get the job done, it's time to get formal. It's time to use things like "agendas" and "action items." Enter Tokii.com's Trading Post feature, which encourages you to haggle in the name of love. "I'll wash your car on Saturday, if you agree to give me a one-hour back rub." One person suggests a trade and the other half either accepts or negotiates the terms.
What makes women happy? Believe it or not, it tends to be the little things that make women the most satisfied in relationships. We spoke with Dr. M. Gary Neuman, family counselor and author of "Connect to Love," who, based on his research, gave us some insights on what women want.
Now that we've learned what men don't understand about women (#LadiesWeWantAnswers), it's time to hear the retort. Some savvy ladies decided to get #menwewantanswers to start Twitter-trending as a response. The ladies left no stone unturned!
Most men are confused about what a woman really wants; I know I am. We can assume that it’s the diamond ring or the nice house in the nice neighborhood or making sure the family’s needs are met or being a good father or completing the honey-do list, etc. These things (and so many more!) are, in my opinion, the basics of what a woman deserves.
So, behold. This is the male ideal: We have ideas "in American culture about what a 'real man' is and does. You know: strong, competitive, dominant, wealthy, good at fixing machinery, lots of sexual partners, enjoys sports... Guys? Listen up. The world is telling you to turn yourself into a unicorn and start shitting diamonds... You will never, ever be man enough. So stop giving a damn."
Having a bad day? Turn that frown upside down...unless you're a man in search of a girlfriend. According to new research from the University of British Columbia, women are more sexually attracted to brooding men than to smiling ones. Conversely, male subjects found cheerful-looking women more sexually attractive than women who display confidence and pride.
Everyone knows that in a relationship, attraction goes well beyond physical traits. In a massive new survey of more than 20,000 men and women, YourTango teamed up with Glo.com and Chemistry.com to find out just how much power physical and non-physical traits hold over attraction within a relationship.
Ladies, older definitely means wiser, but that doesn't just apply to your intellectual prowess—it applies to your taste in potential partners, too.
Have you ever wondered why men behave the way they do? Silly question. Of course you have. In his "Dear Women" letter, humorist Streeter Seidell aimed to clear a few things up. He explained some baffling male phenomena for us, like why men don't seem the least bit thrilled by a cute baby at the mall (it just isn't his baby) or the reason for their extreme horniness (equivalent to a female period, it's nature-induced so they can reproduce… oh, fine). We were enlightened, folks. So when he issued a call to women asking for any insights into the female brain, we felt we should write back. It's only fair. So, to all the guys out there, we hope our letter clears a few things up for you, as well.
