We’ve received this question from many women and have decided to address it here. As we often repeat, we’re here to help you understand how we think, and why we do what we do. The more you understand about us, the less confused you’ll be, and the easier it will be for you to have an open, successful relationship with the man of your dreams.
If you don't like doing it, it leaves you in the position of finding the 2% of men who do not care anything about it. This is not a favorable position to be in. The odds are exceedingly against you. But keep in mind that it's always better to know what to do and not need it, than need it and not know what to do. Who knows? One day it may grow on you. (Pun intended.) Now, if you're ready to get your hands dirty, continue to read on.
Most of the time we have no problem getting it on with our significant other. But once in a while there may be something preventing you from doing the deed. Maybe you're hugely pregnant or post-partum. Maybe you're injured. Perhaps Aunt Flo's in town or there's just no birth control on hand. It can be tempting to just roll over and go to sleep, but according to sex expert, Jaiya, author of Red Hot Touch and founder of New World Sex Education--staying sexually close, even when you can't go all the way--is important.
As every busy woman knows, the day can seem never-ending. Between spending hours at the office, taking care of the house, getting your kids situated (if you have them), and working out something for dinner… hopping into bed at the end of the day only means one thing… SLEEP. Is your hectic lifestyle taking a toll on the level of intimacy you share with your partner? Are you spending less time together, cuddling less, and in effect, feeling kind of distant from each other?
Here's a scene from Seinfeld, the '90s' hilarious take on everyday minutae: Jerry: "You faked it?" Elaine: "I faked it." Jerry: "That whole thing, the whole production, it was all an act?" Elaine: "Not bad, huh?" Jerry: "What about the breathing, the panting, the moaning, the screaming?" Elaine: "Fake, fake, fake, fake."
A woman's natural lubrication can vary due to a number of factors including stress, birth control pills, other medications, and menopause. A personal lubricant will increase the lubrication making penetration and also masturbation more pleasurable, instead of painful. Utilizing a personal lubricant can also make condoms for reliable and add sensation during intercourse. Studies show that not using a personal lubricant with a condom is the number one reason why condoms do break. What Kind of Personal Lubricant Are Available?
Fueled by pure primal instinct, our sex drive is a compelling physiological desire for copulation. Unlike most female mammals, women can enjoy immense pleasure from sexual activity. Of course a partner is not necessarily needed to achieve sexual satisfaction and orgasm, however it is always more fun to share erotic experiences with someone you care deeply for. Whether you enjoy solo play in stimulating yourself, or you have assistance from an adoring lover, orgasm can be profoundly powerful and extremely gratifying to a woman.
“Sex without foreplay is like song’s reff without intro.” — Toba Beta I have been grappling with the statistic that the average amount of foreplay that couples engage in is between 1-4 minutes, as reported on a recent Dr. Oz segment. I don’t doubt it because I have received my share of calls and emails from customers who have shared similar stories and then wondered why the lubricant didn’t work. I am sorry to be the messenger here, but the best, most magical lube in the world is the foreplay.
Telling your partner you are unhappy with your sex life could be one of the most difficult conversations you may ever have to discuss with your significant other. You may have even git plenty of thought, opting to remain silence. Afterall building a successful sexual foundation requires work, just like maintaining a job. Developing key strategies such as, communication, consistency, commitment and compromise could be a great start to regaining your intimate connection.
Why is sex so often rushed? I was seeing this guy for a month and a half, and we started having sex three weeks in. Sex sessions went on for an hour or more easily, and for whatever reason, the only time he ever came was the first time. Whether he was in control or I was in control, he just wouldn’t come. Although he didn’t give that as the reason, I think that might have influenced him to let our “thing” end, which leads me to this thought— Guys need to stop seeing sex as a means to an end and simply enjoy the process.
It was in grade school math that I learned about reducing fractions to their lowest common denominator. I hated math. Still do. “Reducing to the lowest common denominator,” however, is a great way of describing how we so often “sink” to the level of those with whom we are engaging. If you’ve ever argued with a child, you know what I mean. Before you realize it, you’re exchanging “did” and “did not” as if your life depended on winning. When this happens in your relationship, the results are never pretty. Example:
