I have a number of female friends, but don’t discuss intimate details as a matter of courtesy and keeping my own intimate details to myself. Unless, they inquire and initiate the sexual conversation. Then, I will tend to reveal more but most likely keep it limited. Women talk - to other women and men. Usually can’t keep these stories to themselves. On very rare occasions usually after several drinks, a guy might say to another after seeing some hottie – “Yeah, I’d like to do her, go down on her ” Something like that, but it all depends on the type of guy friend. I have close friends where we just don’t share any intimate details about dates or sexual activities – just as a matter of our age and character. For the most part, it is just recognizing the beauty of a woman and wanting to pursue her for a date or something. When I was in my late thirties, I was dated a woman who gave the best blow jobs ever – I mean ever. So, I did share this with two close male friends at the time and on rare occasions may mention it to these same two friends if her name ever comes up – and they will remember. Concerning a long term relationship I had with a female, it almost seemed from friends that discussing intimate sexual details was “off limits” unless I initiated the conversation. And I did on several occasions indicating “she loved to have me go down on her.” As simple as that and no other details. Really, it is a function of age, character, maturity, type of female or male friend, and what you feel comfortable revealing about your sexual and intimate activities. P.S. Jennifer, you can use you wish. I look forward to your final story. If in your story you will be using quotes, that is fine. But if you use a name for the quote, just keep it anonymous or first name only please. I don’t need anything to come haunt me. MAN #6 hey jennifer! whats new? long time now see, we should grab a drink or something sometime soon and catch up. how's the book? website? in regards to your question- here's how it usually works (from my experience): if its a random hook up or neither person are in a relationship guys talk about it- in what amount of detail depends on if anything weird happened, if the sex was really good/fun or if it was really bad. but beans are spilled as to quality, what happened, and if there is any interest in the girl. If the girl is cheating on her boyfriend- guys will tell their friends too- b/c they didn;t do anything wrong so whats the big deal if the other guy finds out unless of course he is connected to their group of friends in which case, you probably wouldn't say much except to your best friend, but then again, you might be an asshole and not give a shit and tell people anyway. If you are cheating on your girlfriend- same thing- you might tell one of your buddies to get it off your chest but it might not come out until a few weeks later as to prevent such an uproar of excitement and interest in what happened. In any case, guys talk, maybe not in the extent and intimate details that women do, but we definitely talk about what happened- good, bad, crazy, weird, love, fling, mistake, etc. If something weird, kinky or just great sex went down then men will tend to tell more people if the subject of that particular girl comes up. Close friends get the real dirt, other friends just get the casual "oh i hooked up with her". hope this helps. just one man's point of view.
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