I have hosted thousands of Pleasure Parties over the past 10 years. After a couple of hours of sex toy talk and tons of wine, the TRUTH comes out! These women will tell me every detail of their love life, whether they are over the moon or trudging through a sexual dry patch. 10 years and thousands of conversations, and the same five issues come up over and over. Read on for some super simple ways to spice up your sex life immediately.
Whether you are a 'Fifty Shades of Grey' fan or not, you can probably appreciate that the book has brought awareness to individuals, homes and now college campuses. Not just any college campus, Harvard University. Here is what they are likely to know about sex and kink in the Ivy League.
• Dinner and a movie is so overdone. What are some creative dating ideas? Here are a few of my favorites, and by the way Dinner and a movie is for people in a relationship. Find a small local band to listen to. Take your dog to the park and invite them along. Take them to Target and play in the aisles with all the fun toys. Play one on one basketball. Bake a cake together. Go to the zoo.
As someone who has identified as kinky for over a decade, both professionally and personally, I have to admit I was absolutely appalled when the 50 Shades trilogy first hit the mainstream. I read all three books, and as I read some of the myths and stereotypes, I had to do some deep breathing. I couldn't help thinking, "these are the books that have become the cultural reference point for kink?" As I thought this, a bit of my kinky little heart broke.
With the world-wide phenomenon that the ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey” trilogy has become it’s impossible to escape the media coverage, the ecstatic fan base and the conversation it’s all stirred up. The most important aspect of these books is the permission they give to read, enjoy and even live out kinky fantasies.
by Julie Robinson One of my all time favorite classes at the University of Iowa was the biology elective called “human sexuality.” I remember exactly three things from this class: 1) According to our extremely prestigious sexologist professor it’s perfect normal to engage in sexual activity with just about anyone including farm animals; 2) It is possible to literally “turn green”—this happened to a guy sitting down the aisle when we were watching a video on penis implant surgery; 3) T
I am pretty sure that sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and sometimes we really like being tied up despite having a pleasant, if unremarkable upbringing and having great respect for our friends, lovers and neighbors. Mommy and daddy issues are frequently convenient excuses for "embarrassing" desires we've been taught to believe are "sinful."
And, I for one, LOVE IT. I just don't think that any adult should have any shame or embarassment when a it comes to their own sexual expression. Is there a crazy amount of hype around "50 Shades of Grey" and the kinky sex? Hell yes. You know it's a frenzy when Barbara Walters wears a Black leather jacked on "The View" and bring up the mommy porn that is sweeping the nation.
Hell yes! Believe it or not, the woman is in control and it is she who dictates the energy. It’s unbelievable, but it is true! Understanding this fact and learning how to use it to your advantage can dramatically improve your sex life and your partner’s sexual enjoyment. A woman can make a man feel like King Kong or ding dong depending on what she says to him in bed. Why do you think men go to strip clubs? Strippers have perfected the art of telling men what they want to hear.
If you don't like doing it, it leaves you in the position of finding the 2% of men who do not care anything about it. This is not a favorable position to be in. The odds are exceedingly against you. But keep in mind that it's always better to know what to do and not need it, than need it and not know what to do. Who knows? One day it may grow on you. (Pun intended.) Now, if you're ready to get your hands dirty, continue to read on.
In a culture where polyamory is part of the national vocabulary, sex parties are no longer shocking, and Rihanna is singing about S&M on the radio airwaves, it would seem that kink has finally gone mainstream. Still, there are some things that are still taboo… at least until you peek into women's panties.
It's 2010. Everybody and their father has admitted to using and enjoying sex toys. We gals, in particular, can attend nary a girl's night, book club meeting or parent-teacher conference without ultimately comparing favorite vibrators. But we all know, like sex itself, vibrators can be totally awesome or frightening and weird. A sex toy designer divulges the newest and weirdest in adult toy innovation. Here at Lemondrop we're often like, "Hey, what gives, sex industry? Who invents this stuff?" Answer: Chad Braverman. Well, not just Chad. But he's an actual "adult novelty" designer (for venerable house of naughty-bit ticklers, Doc Johnson), has actually won some awards for his R-rated creations, and he agreed to answer some of our silly questions
The last bastion to flying one's freak flag unfettered is the sex club. These palaces of pleasure and pain were impenetrable to squares...until now. According to USA Today a museum in Vienna is offering a glimpse at what goes on at a swinging sex party…the morning after. The Secession, a modern art museum in Austria's most famous city is now, temporarily, the home to a club called Element6.
If you're familiar with writing about love, sex and everything in between, you know Em & Lo. What you may not know, unless you get UK Channel 5, is that they turned their best-selling 2008 book, Sex: How To Do Everything, into a TV mini-series. I had a chance to interview them about the show and their experience creating it.