Today is my mentor's 88th birthday and I want to take this occasion to publically record the lessons I've learned from him in my life. Dr. William Glasser is the creator of Choice Theory and Reality Therapy. The most important thing for health and happiness is positive, strong relationships in one's life.
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Most Americans believe that in throughout their dating process, they are searching for their soul mate - the person they are destined to spend the rest of their lives with. Many may wonder why this process is so difficult or how to even get there. These three steps show you what might be going wrong and how to put you on the path to Mr. Right.
I've been interviewing people about their post-divorce experiences for a project I'm working on. These are some of the principles I've learned through these interviews. In my mind they combine two excellent overarching themes that emerge post-divorce: "How I want to live now," and "How I can avoid future mistakes." Most of the principles apply to both.
Sex sex sex sex sex. It seems one can hardly go a day without being bombarded by notions of how much and what kind of sex we should have. Dr. Oz tells us that in a healthy relationship partners have sex three times a week, and it seems like Cosmo will never run out of new sex positions to offer us (I mean, seriously--how many can there be?). Then throw in 50 Shades of Grey, The Bachelor Born-Again Virgin, and it eventually becomes a FACT: sex is the only and most important barometer of a relationship.
It's safe to say that, for the most part, everyone has the same general fear when it comes to online dating. The biggest concern is usually if the person on the other side of the Internet will match their profile. Thankfully in this day and age, technology has made it a little bit easier for you to help ensure you are meeting is actually the person in the picture.
Stereotypes of singles and those using online dating services are abound, but the reality is that many quality people are looking for love in cyberspace. How do you find one of these people? By becoming one yourself, of course! Relationship scholars know that shared characteristics are key to attraction, so if you want to find a well-adjusted, healthy, optimistic partner, you’ll want to develop those characteristics in yourself. Your grandmother was right: Misery attracts misery and happy attracts happy.
Apparently couples spell happiness r-e-v-i-e-w. An interesting study led by Eli Finkel, head of the social psychology department at Northwestern University, shows that couples who review their relationship three times a year enjoy happier marriages.
How are you keeping up with your resolution of regular exercise? If it is not going well, you are not alone! On this Valentine's day renew your vows with your body. The other day at the end of my class, people got quite hyped up to make time to do something for themselves. Some of them made a commitment to start going to the gym. Sounded like a great idea! But experience tells me that, by the next class more than half will report that they didn’t have time or the motivation. So what would help to be more successful?
To what lengths would you go to be happy? Would you be willing to create a diary, track your progress and chart its growth? One person has. Artistically creative and equally brilliant graphic designer Stefan Sagmeister has invested a decade in purposefully increasing happiness in his life. This work is now a work of art known as The Happy Show. Combining self research of using mediation, therapy and mind altering drugs, Sagemeister has created a work of art that embodies his personal experiences during his pursuit of happiness.
Did you grow up believing that if only someone REALLY loved you in the way you needed to be loved, then you would feel happy, safe, lovable and worthy? Certainly being truly loved by parents goes a long way toward supporting children in feeling safe and lovable, but it is not the whole story.
What do you tell someone who is depressed or has a distorted sense of their body and believes getting plastic surgery will make him/her better? It is important for anyone considering plastic surgery to know what it can and cannot accomplish.
