Do you have a secret from your past that you've shared with no one? Have you had an abortion and feel like you have never emotionally recovered from it? Are you unsure on how to go about processing a voluntary pregnancy termination? If you are keeping this secret from your past, I want to encourage you that "you are NOT alone." There are 1,000's of women hiding their secret pregnancy terminations who do not know how to process through the emotions lurking deep inside.
My journey started where you are right now. You have taken the first and hardest step. There is a place in your heart that is painful and confusing for you. You are missing a piece in your life that you’ve never processed through. You're looking for answers. You want to tell your story and you want to know you're not alone.
It’s not like you can talk with just anyone about your secret voluntary pregnancy termination. You may not be able to share with your best friend or even with your spouse. It would be impossible for them to understand what you feel right now that “your gut” is telling you to walk this journey.
There are two typical reactions when you share your secret with an unsafe person. You might feel invalidated. For instance the person might say something like, “Oh that was years ago, you need to just get over it. After all, abortion is legal. You need to get on with your life.” They’ve invalidated the pain you’re feeling.
On the other end of the spectrum you can get condemnation. You could get an answer like, “You should feel bad. Look what you did!” So this person just heaped more coals of shame on your head and further silenced your voice. This is truly a secret that is too heavy and too dark to share with just anyone who doesn't understand.
Hi, I'm Trudy Johnson and the most fulfilling part of my life has been this season of using my education and my gifts to help women process grief caused by voluntary pregnancy termination. I love that I am a safe place for them to share their honest feelings and expose that tender place deep inside their hearts that is so vulnerable and full of grief.
My second most exciting thing has been the writing of a self-help plan to help women work through grief after abortion without fear. Dr. Christiane Northrup even mentions me in her chapter on abortion in her latest release of Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom.
I wrote C.P.R. ~ Choice Processing and Resolution to help women find a safe to be validated and receive some freedom from the grief. If the sisterhood of women keeping their voluntary pregnancy terminations a secret started talking in a safe place we would be a much healthier and empowered community mentally, emotionally, spiritually and even physically.
The Reason I Became A Helping Professional
I became a helping professional because I needed help once and could not find it. Ten years after my abortion choice I experienced re-occurring dreams and deep depression levels. I went to a professional cousnselor and he told me to "go home and get over it." That abortion was a legal, natural choice and that I shouldn't feel bad. I went to a pastor and he told me that I shouldn't feel sad and condemn myself so much. I went to another pastor and he told me that I should feel bad because I had "killed my baby."
I needed someone to help me walk through the grief I was feeling and there was no one. No one to talk to, no where to go. Once I found a "caring angel" that reached out to me and let me talk, I began my quest to become a professional so that I could help others. This is a life long journey for me and I am grateful for the place I now am in...a season that allows me to use all my past to help others get over their past. Very fulfilling and rewarding!
Trudy thank you for Choice Processing and Resolution. I am sitting on my porch in Ireland sipping a cup of coffee. For the first time in so many years I am able to feel joy and peace. I was so haunted by my choice decision. You've helped me get unstuck and move forward. I can't thank you enough!
As an author, we don't always know if our books are dropping into the blackhole...are they helping anyone, is anyone inspired, making their way because of our labor of love? I received the following email encouragement the other day. It was great hearing from this reader.
I'm writing to say thank you for writing your book, "C.P.R." -- I am about 1/2 way through, and I must admit, its harder than I imagined to complete, but at the same time it's the one piece of literature that is really compassionate and caring. I've really appreciated what I've read so far because one of the biggest emotions I've had since having my abortion 7 months ago is loneliness, and it was so nice to have someone say "you're not alone, this happens to a lot of women". The only people that know about my abortion are my husband, my counselor and my acupuncturist. I also appreciate the emphasis on journaling in your book; although it is truly difficult to re-play, I know it is good for me in the long run.
I just wanted to write to you because, as I said, I sincerely appreciated the compassion that comes across so clearly in your book. Thank you for all the work you are doing.
|Main Specialty||Abortion Issues|
|Credentials||LMFT, MA, Non-Profit|
|Time in Practice||6-10 years|
|I practice in||Multiple states/provinces, please inquire|
Marriage and Family Therapist
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|I offer my services||At my office|
|I am fluent in||English|
|Licence information||Expiration 8/31/15|
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