9 Compliments Men Crave


Women are shot with self-esteem boosting arrows from men regularly in the form of compliments – from the street whistler to the random at the bar to the sincere guy we are dating, everywhere we turn, somebody seems to think we got it goin’ on. However, aside from the mouths of their mamas, men rarely are on the receiving end of a sweet sentiment from a beautiful woman. So a girl who can fire off a meaningful compliment will separate herself from the pack of others too self-absorbed to realize guys need lovin’ too. Here are some warm fuzzies guaranteed to heat him up, and who knows you may even get a compliment in return:

1. “Boy, you are so good at xyz!”
Compliment your man on his talents be it in the kitchen, in the bedroom (this is definitely at the top of his list!), in the gym or in the garage. A guy wants to hear how good he is at the skills he works hard to perfect.


2.“You make me feel so (safe, beautiful, happy, horny or anything that is a direct reflection of his efforts).”
This is one of the most sincere compliments you can give your man and one of the most deeply appreciated because it is heartfelt. A guy who likes you is trying hard to make you feel good so let him know it is working.

3. “OMG! You are so hot! I love your (insert specific physical attribute here such as eyes, smile, abs, shoulders).”
It is one thing to tell a guy that he is good looking, but telling him specifically what makes him so dreamy, will give his ego an extra little lift. And when you serve up this accolade, gently touch the body part you are applauding to add extra sizzle to your compliment.

4. “I love spending time with you.”
This compliment shows a guy that you like him not because of who he is on the outside - his looks, his status or his money, but that you like him, because of who he is on the inside.

5. “I love the way you look in that (insert specific article of clothing).”
While most guys aren’t as style obsessed as we are, they still want to be acknowledged for making an effort to look good, especially since they are doing it mostly to impress you. However, they take more pride in how they appear in an article of clothing than their ability to pick it out, so focusing on how the thing makes him look instead of the thing itself will give him a much bigger boost.

6. “This was the best date, gift, wine selection at dinner (or some other acknowledgement of when he has tried to impress you.)”
Positively reinforcing a guy who is making an effort to show you a good time makes him feel like that effort was worth it, so show a little appreciation by acknowledging his job well done with a verbal high-five.

7. “You are so good at your job.”
Recognizing a man’s brainpower and how good he is at his job will resonate loudly with him and also say a lot about you. Most women are impressed by a man’s career status or how much money he makes, but acknowledging how hard he works, or how dedicated he is and that you admire him for it, will warm his heart.

8. “You have a wonderful family or I like your friends.”
Girls don’t always get along with a guy’s friends and/or his family so knowing that you respect and genuinely even like his will mean the world to him.

9. “What would I do without you?”
Guys want to feel needed. Whether it is to open a pickle jar or to help you with your taxes, one of the greatest feelings in the world for them is feeling like you can’t live without them. Letting him know that you need him in that neo-traditionalist way will certainly give him a healthy machismo boost.

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Tristan Coopersmith

Marriage and Family Therapist

Tristan Coopersmith, M.A. MFTi

Location: Hermosa Beach, CA
Credentials: BA, MA, MFTI
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