Three Reasons Women Cheat


Three Reasons Women Cheat
There are three common experiences for women who have had affairs, and although these are not excuse

Let’s face it; cheating is not just a man’s game. 

Studies say that up to 45% of women and 55% of men will cheat at some point in their marriage.  That means that about half of everyone will have an outside relationship with someone while they are committed to someone else.  And these statistics show clearly that it’s not just the guys who are doing it.


There are three common experiences for women who have had affairs, and although these are not excuses for cheating, they may explain why some women step out and others stay home. 

One reason women cheat is to use an affair as (what I call) a “can opener.”  They cheat to get out of their primary partnership, disengaging emotionally and physically by getting involved with someone besides their husband.  Sometimes women do this before they even realize that they want out of their marriage.  It is almost as they are behaving as if they are done with their marriage before they even admit it out loud. 

Some women don’t really know they want out until they start to cheat.  They use the affair as a catalyst to end their marriage.  Some even describe it as “swinging from one branch to another” to make sure that they have prospects available before decide to make the change.

It is doubtful by the way, that if a woman does end her marriage for an affair that she will end up staying with her affair partner.  Only one in three make the transition from affair to permanent relationship.  Many times when the marriage ends, so does the affair. 

Another reason that women cheat is because, in their own way, these women are working on their self esteem.  (Warning - Guys won’t want to hear this.)  Even if a woman is not conscious of it, cheating may be a way to get outside affirmation, feel more desirable and temporarily increase feelings of positive self regard.

Keep reading...

More Juicy Content From YourTango:

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Tammy Nelson


Tammy Nelson, PhD, LPC email me at

Location: Ridgefield, CT
Credentials: LPC, PhD
Specialties: Couples/Marital Issues, Sex Therapy
Other Articles/News by Tammy Nelson:

How Did You Know About His Affair? Maybe You're Psychic


Most of us have an intuitive sense that we either dismiss or tell ourselves is just our "imagination." But sometimes that intuition is telling us something important about our relationship; perhaps even insight on whether your partner has or will have an affair.  Intuition is defined as "the ability to understand something immediately, ... Read more

Miserable In Your Marriage? 3 Signs That Divorce Is The Next Step


You have been thinking about leaving your marriage for a while. Tossing and turning through each sleepless night, you struggle with one burning question: "Should I leave?" Here's what you need to know before you make that final decision.  First, no one can decide for you. It is only you who can make the choice to dissolve your marriage. ... Read more

Would You Stay Together If Your Partner Cheats?


If you have ever been cheated on, you know the pain and heartache that comes from betrayal. The hurt can last a long time, maybe even years.  So why should you stay?  Your friends and family will tell you “once a cheater, always a cheater.” But is that always the case? These days, 65% of couples stay together after an ... Read more

See More

My Videos
Must-see Videos
Most Popular