Take Your Lovemaking To The Next Level

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Take Your Lovemaking To The Next Level
Sex and lovemaking advice for couples...

Has lovemaking with your partner become a bit too predictable?

It might be pleasurable, but there isn't the same level of passion that you used to enjoy with your mate...or maybe that you've always wanted to experience but never have. Even if you feel satisfied in the bedroom, it could be that you'd like even more.

Adam looks forward to Friday nights. Friday is date night with his wife Cassie. They both work hard at their jobs and have a full house of kids and pets. It seems that they are constantly on the run-- and often doing different things.

When Adam and Cassie set aside Friday nights as “their” time, it was one of the best decisions they ever made. Sometimes they watch a movie or go out to eat, but they always end up their date night making love.

This is Adam's favorite part of date night. But lately, Adam finds himself wanting more adventure and spontaneity with Cassie when it comes to their lovemaking. He wistfully remembers their passionate days and nights together...before kids, careers and pets.

If you want to take your lovemaking-- and your relationship-- to a deeper, closer and more passion-filled level, you can check out all kinds of books and dvds. These will teach you about new positions to try or products to enhance your experience.

It is true, there are specific techniques and products that can certainly increase pleasure for both you and your partner.

In this article, however, we're offering you some different tips that might surprise you...

Tip #1: Don't always make love when you are intimate.
Women, and some men, will often ask their partner to just cuddle or “spoon” together. Believe it or not, non-sexual intimacies like this can amp up the passion.

It can be a particularly sensual and exciting experience for you and your mate to give one another foot or back massages-- and NOT to make love afterward. Allow yourself to be pleased by the touches you give and receive and really connect with your partner in the process.

Hold hands or stroke your mate's arm or cheek. The more often that you touch one another in sensual ways, and also in affectionate ones, the deeper you can go when you do choose to make love.

Intimacy can also happen at an emotional level. Finding the courage to be intimate in this way will not only bring you emotionally closer to your partner, it can also help you take your lovemaking to the next level.

When you truly open up to your mate-- even about the things that you feel uncomfortable sharing-- you are bolstering the trust and understanding between you two.

You can each more fully know one another.

More often than not, this deeper trust and understanding will carry over into the bedroom. Allowing your love to know the real you and listening with openness to the real him or her can induce greater openness when it comes to lovemaking.

This can mean more adventure, more spontaneity and more pleasure.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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