Just Got Dumped? When & How To Start Dating Again!

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Just Got Dumped? When & How To Start Dating Again!
Heal and move on from your breakup or divorce with these tips...

Jennifer's friends keep urging her to date again. It's been about 6 months since the painful breakup with her ex-boyfriend and she's just not sure if she's ready yet.

To be honest, she's not sure if she'll ever be ready to date again.

 

Being cheated on, lied to and dumped by her ex-boyfriend has left Jennifer feeling leery and apprehensive of men. Jennifer's friends suggest that she won't fully heal until she finds another guy and sees that all men aren't like her ex.

Jennifer is not so sure.

After your breakup or divorce, do you feel like you are treading carefully through life?

You may already be dating again and living with the doubts and suspicions that this relationship will end up like your last one. Or, like Jennifer, you might be choosing to stay single for now (or forever).

There are no rules that say you have to wait a certain period of time after a breakup before you can date again. There are also no rules that say you have to ever date again.
This is completely up to you to decide.

When you feel lonely and crave the intimacy of being in a love relationship, it's a pretty clear sign that you might be ready to date again.

It could be that some days you are more open to the thought of dating again than you are on other days.

All of this is natural.

Stay connected in with what you want.
As you your broken heart pain heals, it is so important that you remain tuned in to you.
You will know whether you'd like to go out socially or if you'd prefer to stay in alone when you are connected in with yourself.

Set aside at least 5 minutes each day for this check in time. You might write in a journal or simply sit quietly with your attention focused inward.

During this time, just notice the feelings that you are having. Listen to your own thoughts. This information can help you know what you are ready for and what you need next.

With all of the advice from her friends, Jennifer is starting to feel overwhelmed. She begins to write in her journal for 10 minutes or so before leaving for work in the mornings.

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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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