Study: Why We Lie About Our Sexual Pasts

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Study: Why We Lie About Our Sexual Pasts
Do you find yourself lying about who you've slept with? Here's why...

Some things refuse to die! Take the gender myth that to be a "real man" you need to have had a lot of sex with a lot of women and, conversely, to be a decent woman you need to be either a virgin or have only had a few sexual partners.

This might sound outdated to you and maybe you don’t buy into this double standard, but deep down inside, maybe you do! Maybe your worries about how others (particularly the one you’re dating or would like to date) are influencing the way you talk about yourself...and how honest you are about your past.

A recent study published in the journal Sex Roles indicates that both men and women tend to lie when talking about how sexually inexperienced or sexually active they are if they believe the truth violates this double standard. According to the research, women reported more past sexual partners than they’d previously reported after being hooked up to a lie detector. Men reported fewer past sexual partners than before.

How honest are you when you talk about your past?

Do you avoid the topic because you’re embarrassed? Do you gloss over certain parts of your past because you don’t want your date to know? Is your biggest fear that he or she will discover just how unworldly you are (if you’re a heterosexual guy) or just how wild your past has been (if you’re a heterosexual woman)? Keep reading...

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