They will break your heart every single time.
I feel like I've heard it all, and feel a new empathy for bartenders who listen to people cry in their beer.
Just last week, I was trying to enjoy a quiet lunch, but the waitress, who had just popped out a baby, wanted to talk about her non-committal boyfriend. Yes, my food was cold by the time her other waitress friend ran by to talk about her dating problems, too.
Then, there is the casual acquaintance that can’t seem to marry her boyfriend of several years because his mom is the main woman in his life. And I admit, I have a few non-committal men in my own rearview mirror, as well.
There are a lot of guys out there with issues.
What I find is that women — young and old — experience the same dating issues. It was a shock to my teenage daughter when she discovered the similarity in dating issues between girls her age and older women.
Below is a list of guys that no one (of any age) shouldn’t spend a second with once you figure them out. Don’t try to change them. Just run!
After all, the more time you spend with the wrong person, the more time it will take you to meet the right person. Ladies, kick these five going-nowhere fellas aside because dating them only leads to heartbreak.
1. The Mama's Boy
We've all dated a guy like this. He doesn’t make decisions without his mom's input. You might recognize a variation of some of these other guys on the list mixed in with the mommy’s boy as well. (For example, he could also be non-committal because he is already committed to his main squeeze: His mother.)
A way to spot a Mama's Boy is when his mother helps him pick out his house (or clothes, etc.), and not you. He asks her opinion, not your opinion. And if mommy must come over to take care of him when he is sick ... and he is 30!! ... you definitely have one of these guys on your hand.
Lose this dude quicker than a bad habit because you don’t want to end up doing his laundry and sorting out his life.
2. The Non-Committal Guy
Ladies, you have heard this before, and you will hear it again. If he says he doesn’t want a commitment, he means it and you need to respect that!
You aren’t going to change his mind. And you're never going to get what you truly want sticking around waiting for him to see the light.. I know plenty of women who dump this guy, and turn around and find the love of their life. So, say farewell and move on.
3. The Player
This guy is out for one thing only and, like the title suggests, his main function is to play.
If he does marry you, guess what — he'll still act like a player, only this time you'll call him a serial cheater. He doesn’t want a serious relationship, and neither should you because, with this guy, you're wasting your time.
You can easily spot him on Facebook with all the hot women in his photos. Oh, look ... there he is now, trying to make time with your best friend. Drop him!
4. The Narcissist
We have all seen this guy before, too — the pretty boy with a little sociopath tendencies mixed in. You might confuse the narcissist for a player, or the plain 'ol non-committal type. But he actually is in a very real relationship ... with himself. There is no room for you, your needs, or your issues because he is far too obsessed himself.
Sorry, but the pattern will never change with this guy. Good luck finding an available mirror when he is around.
5. The Flake
Women get called flaky all the time but, the truth is — men are just as flaky, if not more so! And, when you combine that with wishy-washy, you have a real problem on your hands. You can never take this guy seriously.
Maybe he doesn’t know what he wants to do with his life (even though he's 40). Maybe he does want to take you out, but can’t make the most basic decision on whether it’s a movie or dinner. Yeah, you're going to get tired of this guy real quick.
Throw him back because he isn’t a keeper either.