Is sexual tension a problem with many couples due to all the information & opinions discussed today? Are we confused as to what a normal sex life is? Let’s talk about what should be happening to make your sex life compatible regardless of whether you are in a new or long term relationship.
What is the average amount of time you should spend between the sheets on a weekly basis? This answer varies on numerous conditions such as work/children schedules, careers that involve travel, medical issues, long distance romances & sexual libido of the couple involved. To maintain a healthy relationship, sex 2-3 times a week is preferred but the average answer is 1- 2 times per week realistically.
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It is important to try to choose someone with a comparable sex drive so that you have a similar priority as to "how often" you are fulfilling your weekly appetite!
Regardless of how little or how often you are having sex, quality is always better than quantity for many women in the partnership. If one partner constantly “guilts out” the other to have sex, it won’t be long before the relationship has major problems. Sex should never feel like a chore for either person involved.
How Do We Keep That Burning Desire Fresh & Alive?
- Kiss passionately at least once every day in your relationship!
- Don’t forget to date your partner. Too many people are ignoring courtship & it is becoming a lost art.
- Hold hands when you walk down the street or at a restaurant table.
- Make the effort to look sexy even at home & notice it by complimenting each other.
- Tease them with sensuous emails or texts during the day.
- Always leave special notes for them a few times a week ~ be creative.
What happens if the Sexual Compatibility just never really gets off to a great start but you really like them? Will it eventually end?
This is a great question and one that leaves many relationships in sexual limbo. “Am I settling,” is something many people ask themselves when they feel like they are more of a friend than a lover with their partner. The trick & complications of a loving relationship is to have both. We often feel one but not the other. Companionships are wonderful but do not fulfill all our needs. It is important to know the difference before you decide to make a long term commitment. Many people say they fell out of love with their partner when in reality they were never in love with them. It is easy to really like someone.
What if you are opposite personalities?
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Opposites may attract but they seldom stay together once the initial interest wears off. Sexual compatibility can be very exciting in these situations because it forces you to experiment outside your usual comfort zone. Relationships are difficult enough without having so many differences. Occasionally it works very well & the relationship endures, but for the most part it becomes too much work trying to understand each other’s needs & difference and fizzles out.
How do you know on those first few dates whether there is a sexual chemistry and if you may be compatible in the bedroom??