Dating/Relationship/Sex Advice - Are You Good in Bed? [Expert]

How would you rate yourself in the bedroom?

This is a question we should all ask ourselves and maybe our partner. If you don’t want to hear the answer, chances are, you may not be. Becoming a good lover starts from wanting to be.

Have you ever noticed how some people just ooze sensuality by the way they walk, talk, dress, their mannerisms & body language? By showing this sexual confidence, there is a very good chance they are “in tune” to the sensuous side of themselves! That is not to say that quiet introverted types are boring in bed, it is just more work to find out in the initial stages upon meeting them.

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It is really important to learn how to talk to your partner about sex before you get between the sheets. We all have different needs & preferences which may or may not be of interest to the other partner. Many things can be learned about each other when the questions are relayed gently & diplomatically without the pressure of nudity. If someone is into S&M, fantasy role playing, threesomes or fetishes, it is sex etiquette 101 to tell your partner beforehand. Blindsiding them with your Zorro cape & whip in the bedroom may not be the best idea.

How does a person comfortably bring up “Sex” in a conversation when they are getting to know someone?

• Do not discuss sex on the first date. Get to know them a little first
• Kiss them first before any sexual discussions begins ~ you have to like “how” they kiss to want to move to the next level.
• Ask them what is important to them romantically
• Tell them where one of your erogenous zones is (other than the obvious areas!)
• Send them an email or text with a censored sexy message
• Tease them with tasteful flirtatious comments
•  Ask them what is most important to them in a sexual relationship (you might need a little liquid courage for this question)
• Tell them what you desire most in the bedroom, what makes you feel special
• Watch their body language when discussing sex ~ is it tense or relaxed?
• Start slowly with the questions & know when to back off

Why do some people seem to have an easier time with sexual discussions?

Self confidence is a big attraction to both sexes. The more attention & dating experience you receive will help build your self esteem to even higher levels. Insecurity is the main reason for many relationships not getting to the next phase because nervousness will keep you from being comfortable "to ask or answer the questions." This takes time to develop so don't be hard on yourself if discussing sex isn't in your comfort zone right away.