It started two-and-half years ago when I left my full-time job to work for myself. My wife was already a Realtor working from her in-home office. I made the transition so I could participate more in my son’s life and I couldn't be happier.
Our morning routine usually consists of our son waking us up at an ungodly hour, my wife getting up to fix him breakfast and me hopping in the shower. When I finish getting my "hair did", my wife hops in the shower, while I enjoy breakfast with the kiddo, usually with a side of "Dinosaur Train" on PBS.
As my wife emerges glistening and freshly primped for the work day, she heads to her office and I head to mine. Her office is located off the kitchen, while I get up and travel to my office in the spare bedroom. We are the “new” WAHPs (Work At Home Parents) and we make it work. Tales Of A Reluctant, Happy Housewife
Being a work-at-home parent and stay-at-home dad has benefited not just my relationship with my son, but also my relationship with my wife. Here are some of the ways working from home has helped our relationship:
We make our own schedules. This is not as easy as it sounds. If our son wants attention, he is going to try and get it from one of us and he will keep on pestering us until one of us gives in. Unfortunately that is tough on our work, especially for me since it is hard for me transition from work to play then back to work. But because we set our own schedules, my wife and I can carve out that space for him and be his playmate when he needs one. As a family we build forts, draw pictures and make memories that are priceless.
We have flexibility. Outside of the daily work for my blog, themarryblogger.com, I work on a project-by-project basis. No more "looking busy" at a 9 to 5 job. I spent 80% of my time at my previous job acting busy so people would think I was earning my keep. I could finish my job in roughly 8 hours a week, but I still had to look busy the other 32. Not any more. I work when I have work. My wife works when she has work. Together we adjust, we look at calendars, we reschedule and negotiate when one of us can make appointments, while the other one is super parent. This also means we have time to work together and be supportive of one another and our son.
We love what we do. Being a stay-at-home-work-at-home parent allows me to work on things that I really want to do—for myself, and for the benefit of my family. I attach my name to projects that make me feel good. My wife loves helping people situate their lives into homes that can be a blessing for them. We don't do it for the huge bucks that a corporate player might make. We do it because we love what we do. And doing what we love makes us both happy and fulfilled so we don't bring that excess baggage of career dissatisfaction to our relationship.