10 Signs You're In An Abusive Relationship

Abusive relationships can be physical, emotional or both. They are very difficult to get out of, often because the abuser has controlled and brainwashed the victim to feel powerless.

Abuse is an addiction for the abuser. The abuser needs someone to belittle and control. They call it "love" because it is easier to control you that way. But, you are really just an object on which to vent their rage and insecurity.

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Abusive relationships don't always mean a man abusing a woman. There are plenty of unstable and abusive women out there as well. Abusive girlfriends and wives are underreported because some of the male victims are too ashamed to report it.

Please don't believe that you are not being abused just because your abuser has never hit you. Insulting you, constantly finding fault with you and correcting you in public or private are all abusive behaviors designed to destroy your self-confidence and keep you under control. You don't know that it won't escalate into physical violence.

Many victims feel that nobody will believe they're being abused because in public the abuser is sweet and charming. That shouldn't concern you. The police, a doctor or a counselor will believe you because they see it all the time. Even if no one believes you, you should be the one who decides you will no longer put up with abuse.

The most important thing to remember is that it's not your fault. Abusers are expert manipulators. They know that everyone has insecurities and they use use those insecurities against you. Abusers can convince you that you don't deserve better treatment or that they are treating you this way to "help" you. Married With Kids? Try A Sexual Staycation

It's easier to get out of an abusive relationship or to avoid one if you know what to look for. So, watch for these 10 warning signs.

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1. Declaring love for you on your first date. Love at first sight may sound romantic, but someone who's totally in love on the first date usually turns out to be dangerous later on. Emotionally stable people take time to get to know you. Abusers are trying to sweep you off your feet before you have a chance to evaluate them. 10 Ways To Screw Up A First Date ... Royally

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