So THIS Is What Squirting Is (And Surprise — It's Easy!)

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No, it's NOT pee.

Is it natural? Is it even possible? Wait ... is it pee?

Today, I'm going to teach you what squirting is and what squirting is not. There is just so much misinformation out there (thanks a lot porn!) that I want to clear up a few misconceptions and set the record straight with squirting and female ejaculation.

So What Is Squirting?

Squirting, or female ejaculation as it's often called, happens when you expel fluid through your paraurethral ducts which are located near the entrance of your vagina. This fluid is usually clear in color and does not come from your bladder, but instead comes from your Skene's gland. This gland is very similar to the male prostate and the fluid that it generates, that you squirt out, is similar to male prostatic fluid too.

The Skene's gland is located just above your G-spot. As it enlarges, it pushes on your G-spot making it more sensitive and pleasurable to have stimulated.

To make your Skene's gland enlarge, you need to turn yourself on and get aroused. It doesn't happen instantly, so it's best to give yourself at least 20 minutes of getting yourself horny and aroused before attempting to stimulate it. A great way to do this is through reading erotica or even using a vibrator on yourself.

In many ways, the Skene's gland is like a sponge. As you get more and more aroused, it soaks up more and more fluid.

How Does Squirting Occur?

Female ejaculation occurs when you apply pressure and stimulation to your G-spot. You can use your fingers, a dildo or your man can do it during intercourse.

Your G-spot is located about 1.5 inches inside your vagina on the upper wall. When aroused, it feels spongy, sort of like a large wet raspberry. To stimulate it, all you need to do is stroke it or gently press on it with your fingers. It's that easy.

As you stimulate it, you will notice a really nice, pleasurable pressure start to build. Don't fight it. Just allow it to build and build until you can't control it anymore and then release it. It may feel like you're about to pee. Don't worry you won't, you'll squirt instead.

The only bit of preparation you might want to put in before all of this is laying down a towel on your bed to soak up and fluid from squirting.

How Come I Feel Like Peeing During Sex?

Your Skene's gland is located close to your bladder. When you are aroused, your Skene's gland enlarges and puts pressure on your bladder, hence the feeling of needing to pee.

Additionally when you actually squirt, the fluid passes through part of your urethra. This is the same tube that carries your urine. So you may partially get the feeling that you are peeing, when it fact you are not peeing at all.

Getting over this mental hurdle can be quite difficult for some women. Thankfully with lots of practice and patience, most women can squirt very easily.

So I Will Never Pee When I Squirt, Right?

As you share part of the same tube for both squirting and peeing, there is a chance that a small amount of urine may be mixed into your ejaculation. This really isn't anything to worry about as the same is true for when your man ejaculates.

Additionally, if you don't have a particularly strong bladder, then you may pee a little bit as you lose control and start squirting. But this isn't really a big deal provided you are with a cool, sex-positive partner.

Squirting And Gushing:

There is a major misconception when learning about what squirting is. Thanks to its portrayal in pornography, many women believe that when they squirt, they need to produce a fountain that reaches the ceiling. This certainly can happen, but it's not as common as porn would have you believe.

Many women report that they do expel fluid, but it pours out of them instead of getting squirted out in a stream. This is totally normal too. In fact, anything from releasing a small amount of fluid in a tiny stream to squirting a huge amount of fluid across the room is perfectly normal.

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