I recently got together with a friend from high school. She found me on Facebook, we chatted and then decided to have lunch. Her fiance Matt, joined us for part of our reunion lunch, and I learned something very interesting from him that I want to share with all of you.
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Matt is an outspoken, social guy with a big smile. What he had to say really stuck with me. It all started when I explained what I do for work. Matt got quite a kick out of the idea of me being a dating coach. He then shared with me what he feels all men need from the women they are with. It was eye-opener and yet, it made complete sense to me.
All men need these three things from women in order to have a good relationship:
I think there is a tremendous amount of truth to this statement. Have you ever noticed that most men have rather fragile egos? That's what makes them crave praise. If a man does something you like and you want to see more of that behavior, praise him for it so you can get more of it! The first two A's — appreciation and acknowledgement — are forms of praise, right?
Now, the definition of affection is loosely connected to sex, I'm quite sure. But it can also be an expression of love, from a good hug to a romp in between the sheets. The desire for a human touch is a basic need. We all need it — from hugs to kisses to more. Affection and sex are part of a healthy lifestyle. I'm sure I'm not going to get too many arguments from women on this one, right?
So, I'm wondering: Do you appreciate men? Do you acknowledge them? Do you share your affection with them? A lot of what I have read about understanding men insists that men are easy and women are complicated. Personally, I think that's true.
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