How To Date A Gay Man

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How To Date A Gay Man
Men will be boys and boys will be men. Being gay and dating a gay man, just creates more challenges!

There’s a funny thing that happens on the way to being gay...no one ever taught a man how to date a man. Ooops! Think of it like seeing a shirtless Ryan Reynolds, three stories high on a billboard in Times Square. You’re mesmerized by his perked-up pecs, adorable smile, and drawn to a vision of running your hands through his perfectly coifed hair. Spellbound beyond logic, you step forward, fully believing this is your moment and Ryan is yours to be had. In the blink of an eye, reality slaps you in the face, you trip off the curb, land on your bubble butt, and narrowly miss being obliterated by an infamous New York Taxi.

Similarly, after you finally admit that you’re more attracted to balls rather than vagina, you find yourself on a date with a guy. It seems to be going great. Soon you’re entangled in the fantasies of cuddling on your jointly purchased Mitchell Gold sofa, sipping Red Bull and Vodka, and watching Houseboys of Orange County. Suddenly, that hunk of testosterone that just moments ago was the epitome of “Harry and Larry Ever After” fantasy, turns to you and says, “You’re sweet but not my kind of treat!” BAM! You trip, grasping desperately to make sense and sensibility out of the Pink slip of “terminated love.” Like so many that have trekked before you, you’re suddenly adrift in a sea of conflicting masculine and feminine energies. Do you step into your “manly man energy” or go to your "compassionate mother within?" Either way, the direction you take is no less confusing than the first time you felt your groin stir at the sight of a hot guy. In fact, the question you may be asking yourself is more than likely the same, “What the #*&$ just happened?” It’s the age-old question that has plagued the broken-hearted since the beginning of time. The only difference is, you're a man who's just been burned by a man you desired, and now you’re questioning your masculinity; at the same time, your inner diva’s demanding answers. Don’t fret, oh ye of taking the path less traveled. Answers await those who continue to read.

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Rick Clemons, The Gay Man's Life Coach & The Coming Out Coach

Rick is a straight-forward, compassionate, insightful, challenging, mentor, guide, and Certified Professional Coach who's been featured on The Ricki Lake Show, and is a highly sought after radio show personality, blogger, author, and faculty member of Sex Coach U. His loving, challenging, gentle, and inspiring approach ignites a fire in clients, helping them get through the darkest moments of life and come out the other side, kicking butt, and being authentically themselves.

Rick thrives, working with individuals, and those in their inner circle, as they embark on the journey out of the closet and beyond. He specializes in helping people build confidence, live their passion while loving their work, and live authentically. Authenticity isn't just a word he throws around lightly. It's the backbone of his practice and the manner in which he personnally strives to live each and every day of his own life.

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