With spring just around the corner and the whole world blossoming in and creating
new life, I figured there is no better time than the present to talk about renewing
yourself with confidence.
There are two basic types of confidence – internal and external – and while they
both affect how you feel about yourself, internal confidence is far more important
than external confidence. Think about it like this: Internal confidence is the
foundation of your self-esteem, whereas external confidence is just the icing on the
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Unfortunately, most people experience confidence backwards. Instead of thriving
off their internal confidence, they are at the mercy of external confidence boosters,
like encouragement, compliments and validations. When they get a hit of external
confidence they feel amazing at first, but it doesn’t last. And once the external
confidence boosters disappear – they end up feeling terrible about themselves,
begging for approval and at the mercy of other peoples’ acceptance.
It’s an unhealthy and stressful way to live, so today’s blog is about creating strong
internal confidence and becoming the C.E.O. (Chief Emotional Officer) of your life.
- Use the powerful “I AM” technique. Okay, so the next time you’re waiting for someone else to tell you how good,amazing or successful you are, I want you to take a moment and write down yourmost important values. For example, loving, caring, kind, honest, productive, successful, loveable, etc. Once you have an exhaustive list, turn your values into nouns and write down “I AM”statements. For example, “I am love”, “I am kind” and “I am success”. Now you can see that those values you care so deeply about ARE you, and you don’t NEED to turn to anyone else for them.
- Fake it till you make it! This is one of my favorite techniques because it is so effective! Walk around the world and exude confidence – even if you’re not feeling it. If you can’t find the confidence within you, help others find theirs. Encourage your best friend to do something daring, or help your daughter find the answers to her math homework. As you help others feel more confident, a funny thing will start to happen: your confidence will blossom as well.
- Practice the “Self Care” technique. One of the fastest ways to feel true confidence is to respect, take care of and love yourself. I can’t tell you how many people think loving themselves makes them a snob. It’s just not true! Begin taking care of yourself by simply choosing to dress in a way that makes you feel confident. Do your hair and makeup, make sure your clothes are ironed and take pride in your appearance. When you show you love yourself by dressing nicely, the world will treat you differently. I know this step can be hard, so for more help check out my YouTube channel (inTact Coaching) and watch my videos on the C.A.R.E. System (How to emotionally and mentally take care of yourself).