During this week of Christmas and Hanukah, we single ladies have lots on our minds. We'll have to figure out everything from how not to show up empty-handed at holiday parties to what to get for the uncle who already has more than enough ties, shaving kits, and money clips.
There are cookies to be baked, candles to be lit, ornaments to be hung, and cards to be mailed out. Of course, there are also questions to be answered from unknowing relatives like ... Are you dating anyone? 10 Ways To Have A Loving Holiday Season
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Nope. Thanks for reminding me of another year with no one to kiss under the mistletoe, Aunt Bonny! Or ... Why yes, Aunt Bonny, actually I am! But he hasn't asked me out for New Year’s Eve yet. Guess I won't be a plus-one this year.
Ah, the holidays! I love them — like a fat kid loves cake! However, I'm painfully aware that they have the tendency to bring out concerns about singlehood. From the moment of the season when I first hear Mariah Carey's All I Want For Christmas playing on the radio until after the ball drops, I know we single ladies are subject to loneliness and reminiscing about the good times with boyfriends of holidays past.
There is indeed a red alert for going back to exes during the holidays. (Thankfully, I have been there, done that, and am not doing that again!) If you are tempted to take a trip down memory lane with your ex: PUT YOUR CELL PHONE DOWN. Do not call or text — especially under the influence of spiked eggnog! 10 Ways To Show Yourself Love This Holiday Season
You are a secure relationship-minded woman with healthy boundaries. (Okay, I hope you are!) I am certain that your past relationship did not work out for a reason. There is a really good chance that problem was not solved.
Going back may feel good for a bit, but if you don't stay away you might just have an emotional hangover by January 2nd! Remember, if you are living in the past you are limiting your future. Since you are reading this article, I assume you'd like to live for the present moment and the future. Now, shall we focus on your lovely future?
While I can't promise the seasonal delivery of the love of your life — all wrapped up and packaged with a big old’ bow — I can give you some free but incredibly valuable dating advice:
If you want to get married and find your happily-ever after, you must only date men who prove they have husband potential!
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Take more than a hot minute and determine what this means for you. That's right, you are going man-shopping, girlfriend. So make your Wish List and then play detective with the men you date. If they don't fit your Wish List, they shouldn't fit into your life! 3 Paths To Holiday Love
Confused about what to put on your Wish List? I do, of course, have my own Wish List that I created when I started my 92-dates-in-one-year-social-research-experiment.