7 WAYS TO DISTRACT YOURSELF FROM THE POST-DIVORCE BLUES
There are times when you need to distract yourself. Times when a glass, or two, of wine just doesn’t cut it and all your friends are out for the evening or just plain tired of hearing about your divorce. These are the times when you need to become creative in order to circumvent the possibility of doing something stupid like driving off a cliff or signing up, yet again, for Match.com. Neither of these scenarios will have the desired effect, which is to get you out of your temporary funk. And besides, the same old losers are still on Match so don’t kid yourself that this time around it will be any different.
The tumultuous ups and downs of post-divorce angst mixed with the strains of alternating self-loathing and self-pity make for a head-splitting cocktail. I myself have suffered at the hands of this wretched concoction one too many times, so tyo make things easier for you I have compiled a list of things that make me feel better than the fore-mentioned alternatives; here are just a few.
ENJOY A SPRITZ: The great thing about putting on a sprizt of your favorite perfume, even if you do so while hanging out in your PJ’s, is that it will make you feel like you’re all dressed up! And unlike the scent of your ex-husband’s after shave, your own scent won’t trigger your olfactory system, bringing back the memories you’d rather keep buried beneath the layers of rage and disdain you still harbor for him.
PUT ON YOUR PEARLS: Or your favorite bracelet or earrings or all of the above. Playing dress-up will make you feel like you’re stepping into someone else’s shoes for a few moments and when you’re feeling blue anybody’s shoes are better than the ones you’ve been walking around in.
GO TO THE DOGS: Play with your dog. Take her for a walk. Give her a good brushing and a doggie treat. Or tease your cat, talk to your bird, feed your fish or chase your Ferret around the living room. The beauty of spending quality time with a furry, finned or feathered friend is that they’re really good listeners and they don’t talk back; didn’t you get more than enough of that from your ex?
I KNOW IT’S ONLY ROCK AND ROLL: Put on your favorite CD’s and play them full blast while you dance around your house like a mad woman. Nothing shakes the blues loose like a good spate of frenzied, sweat-induced dancing. Plus, you can sing along at the top of your lungs, which is a great stress-reliever. Hopefully your neighbors won’t call the cops and you’ll feel a hell of a lot better.
BAKE IT UP: I can really go overboard in the food department sometimes, especially when I have a fire burning in my head that I can’t seem to douse. So my trick for having my cake and eating it to, is to keep some frozen cookie dough on hand from which I can bake just a few cookies at a time. That way I can indulge without overdoing it. It feels decadent and satisfies that urge to eat everything that isn’t nailed down.