If one orgasm is great, are multiple orgasms even better? Not necessarily — some women prefer having one big orgasm while others prefer multiple climaxes. But every women has the option to explore the pleasures of multiple orgasms!
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Orgasms release a flood of pleasure hormones, creating lasting health benefits. Orgasm boosts your immune system, helps you sleep better and tones your cardiovascular system. Orgasms also elevate your mood, strengthens your relationship and gives you an energy boost that can last for days.
Both men and women are capable of multiple orgasms. Men need to learn ejaculation control to achieve multiple orgasms, a process that takes a bit of practice. We offer a free, step-by-step training for men interested in gaining mastery over ejaculation so they can experience multiple orgasms. For women, multiple orgasms are a bit easier to achieve, but still take some practice.
Here's how every woman can start exploring the incredible experience of multiple orgasms. You can also listen to our podcast episode on How to Have Multiple Orgasms, where we discuss all the strategies below and more!
Give Yourself Permission
A lot of women don't feel worthy of experiencing more pleasure. To achieve multiple orgasms, you need to give yourself permission to receive more pleasure, to take more time receiving stimulation from your lover, to fully relax into the experience of being lavished with sensation. Do you worry that your partner gets bored or tired while giving you pleasure? Check in and ask them! You'll probably find that they are more than willing to give you as much pleasure as you can take. A lot of people absolutely love giving their partner erotic pleasure! In most cases, your pleasure is limited only by what you are willing to receive. So take the time to grant yourself permission to experience multiple orgasms.
Master Erotic Touch
Most women do not experience orgasm through intercourse alone. The clitoris is the centerpiece of female arousal, so while you are exploring multiple orgasms, focus on clitoral stimulation. Fingers are the best tools for stimulating the female sexual system. Encourage your lover to master fingering techniques so they can stimulate you with skill and confidence. Then relax and focus on enjoying all the pleasure they can offer you. Explore combinations of clitoral, g-spot and anal stimulation. By tapping into every part of the female sexual system you’ll be able to build higher levels of arousal and sustain your pleasure over time.
Enjoy Orgasm #1
Every experience of multiple orgasms begins with one orgasm. Enjoy the build up to your first orgasm without worrying about what comes next. One orgasm offers emotional and health benefits that can last for days, so fully savor the arousal and climax every time. Some orgasms are so powerful you may feel "done." Give yourself the option to simply relax and enjoy the afterglow. But if you feel like you can keep going, ask your partner to help you explore having more orgasms right away.
After your first orgasm, you may need a few moments to recover before building arousal again in pursuit of multiple orgasms. The trick is to stay connected, physically and emotionally, while taking a break from intense stimulation. Invite your partner to cup a relaxed hand over your vulva, and enjoy the feeling of heat and pressure as you take a few breaths. Your lover can use their other hand to give you full body touch, spreading the erotic energy out through your entire body. Then, after a few moments, start building arousal back up towards another climax. If your clitoris still feels too sensitive, focus on g-spot or anal stimulation. Use all of the fingering techniques you have learned to stimulate in a variety of ways so no one spot gets over-stimulated.
Breathe More, Feel More
If you start to get overwhelmed and shut down to the pleasure you are feeling, focus on taking a few deep breaths. Breathing relaxes your body and expands how much pleasure it can feel. Breathing also floods your bloodstream with oxygen, which allows your nervous system to work more effectively, literally expanding how much pleasure your brain can process!
Remember to explore having multiple orgasms during masturbation. It may be easier to achieve multiple orgasms on your own, when you can pay close attention to exactly how you are feeling in each moment and what your body is craving. Develop the ability to have multiple orgasms on your own and then bring those skills with you to partnered sex.
How many orgasms can you have in a row? Only you can discover the answer to that exciting question. Some women like having two or three orgasms at a time. Others go for seven, ten or more! Multiple orgasms have no limit. But most of the time, you'll find the point where you feel totally satiated and saturated with pleasure. Pay attention to what your body wants. Don't make it a race to see how many orgasms you can have; enjoy each sexual experience as a unique expression of your arousal in that moment. You may find that some days, one orgasm is plenty. On another day, you may be ready to have multiple orgasms. Let each time be an authentic expression.
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