Intensely Intimate Oral Sex: 7 Steps Towards More Connection

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Oral sex tips: sex and intimacy
Here's how to transform regular oral sex into an incredibly intimate erotic event.

Intimacy is all about closeness, the emotional and physical "togetherness" of love. Intimacy does not come from a physical act, but rather from the attitude you bring to one another. A hug can be way more intimate than intercourse, depending on how present, vulnerable and authentic you and your lover can be together.

Many of us crave more intimacy, but the stress and distraction of everyday life gets in the way. Intimacy is often intense in the beginning of a relationship and then becomes more elusive, no matter how much you love one another. The good news is that intimacy can be something you actively create and practice together. To get your man on board, why not seduce him with some intensely intimate oral sex? He'll love every minute of it and hopefully the intimacy will carry over into your life and future lovemaking. Here's how to transform it into an incredibly intimate erotic event:

Make Him Feel Special

Set aside some time to give him a truly unforgettable erotic experience. Just be coy and let the anticipation build. Spend time doing things that make him feel special, cared for and loved. You might want to cook him his favorite meal while he relaxes with a glass of wine or let him watch a game while you serve him beers. Anything you can do to let him know you are paying attention to him and want to pleasure him will go a long way towards increasing the intimacy of your connection.

Enjoy Taking Turns

All too often we think about sex as a game of mutual pleasure — you try to pleasure your lover while simultaneously receiving pleasure from their touch. There is a lot to be gained by taking turns giving and receiving. Oral sex is perfect for taking turns. You can be focused on giving him as much pleasure as you can, while his only job is to relax and receive. Start with a luxurious full body massage and then start getting him aroused by pressing your body into his, running your hands, nipples and hair up and down his body. By the time you start focusing on oral sex, you'll have his complete attention.

Make It A Gift, Not A Chore

Choose to approach oral sex as a tremendous gift of pleasure you are giving. True gifts are offered with enthusiasm and joy, not reluctance. So get yourself in the mood to lavish him with pleasure, and then bring tons of enthusiasm to the act. Make noise, wave your butt around in the air and make it clear that there is nowhere you'd rather be. You'll create a force field of erotic energy between you and your lover. Keep reading...

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