4 Kinky (And Frankly, HOT As Hell) Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life

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Get your cuffs ready!

Bondage and sex are a delicious combination when you have the skills you need to enjoy this naughty pairing.

Here are some important things you need to know before you dive in:

1. You need to master the basics.


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First rule of bondage is knowing how to stay safe as you slip into the sensual experience of erotic bondage. You’ll want to have some basic BDSM communication skills in place so you can surrender completely with your trusted partner.

2. Find your favorite style of bondage.


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Ditch the metal handcuffs — they aren’t a safe option. Instead, explore ankle and wrist cuffs designed for bondage. They come in a range of styles and materials so you can accessorize your sex life in a way that is visually pleasing to you!

3. Plan your game ahead of time.


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So once you are secure in your erotic bondage cuffs and your gorgeous pertner is ready to please you, what kind of sex games might you want to play? The answer depends mostly on the kind of kinky sex you are exploring.

You can play with all sorts of sensations, taking advantage of their "helplessness" as you arouse every inch of their body. You might ride them like a cowgirl as they relax into the embrace of the bondage. Or, you might command them to service you sexually.

Remember, bondage is fun to play with both ways. 

So as much as you might love surrendering into the embrace of your favorite bondage cuffs, take control once in awhile and allow your partner to submit to you!

Here are a few other ideas of what to do with your partner once you have them bound:

1. Tie them to a chair.

Use restraints to bind your partner to a chair and then feed them their favorite dessert, one bite at a time. You can start by taking a few bites for yourself, then meet your partner's gaze and asking “want some?”

Once you give them a few bites, "accidentally" get some on their skin and lick it off. Then take it from there.

2. Full body animalistic tasting.

Put your partner in bondage and then use just your mouth to stimulate their entire body. Lick, suck, bite all over. Growl and snarl as you do it. This feeling of being "consumed" can be very erotic.

Go everywhere else before you stimulate their genitals, and even once you get there draw it out and tease them until they are aching for release!

3. Play with their senses.

Add a blindfold to bondage for a wild experience of being captive. Not only are you physically restrained, but with the added sensory deprivation you are truly at the mercy of your partner.

4. Command and submission play.

Restrain your partner and command them to service you orally. You are in control, giving and taking away your genitals at will.

For fellatio, try binding your partner to a chair so their mouth is at hip level. For cunnilingus, put your partner in bondage on the bed and then straddle their face (a lot of men LOVE to give this but find it hard to ask for!)

Once you are both comfortable with using bondage, try being put in bondage and then having rough sex. This can be really intense so make sure you are both into it, both aroused and have a safeword. Then have fun struggling against your restraints, or relax deeply and let your body be ravished.

Bondage sex can be super rough or really tender and sweet. You can enjoy the struggle or let bondage be a meditation. How you play with bondage sex is completely up to you. Explore the range and enjoy expanding your erotic repertoire! 

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