The New Sexuality: Slow Sex And Organic Orgasm


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Women are redefining the definition of orgasm into something completely female.

Women are redefining the definition of orgasm into something completely female.

Women are redefining orgasm in a brand new way for themselves. They are no longer willing to be held hostage to definitions of orgasm that follow the male model of erection and ejaculation. Female orgasm has so many different expressions, and women who buy into this masculine model that is all about the clitoral climax often find themselves feeling somehow dysfunctional and sexually broken. This can not only destroy their sexuality, but can also permeate other meaningful aspects of their relationships.

Women are redefining orgasm in a brand new way for themselves. They are no longer willing to be held hostage to definitions of orgasm that follow the male model of erection and ejaculation. Female orgasm has so many different expressions, and women who buy into this masculine model that is all about the clitoral climax often find themselves feeling somehow dysfunctional and sexually broken. This can not only destroy their sexuality, but can also permeate other meaningful aspects of their relationships.

But there are new leaders emerging in the land of female sexuality, and they are out of the box and working to be taken as seriously as the Dr. Laura Bermans of the world. I am proud to say that I stand with them.

A case in point, next week in San Francisco, a very cool pop-up shop is opening called: Project “Orgasm Is _________.” Women defining their own orgasm. (Men welcome too). The store will be located at 211 Sutter Street in Union Square and will be open Wednesday, June 29th at 7pm through July 18th.

The store will feature the new book Slow Sex: The Art and Craft of the Female Orgasm by OneTaste’s founder, Nicole Daedone. This temporary store will allow women to define what orgasm is to them by creating their own artwork to be displayed in the store. Women will share and empower other women with what their “Orgasm Is.”

“It’s going to be a very different definition of orgasm than we know,” said Nicole Daedone. “It’s not going to be that fleeting moment of climax that seems to take the whole rest of the act hostage. It’s going to be a definition of orgasm that actually works with a woman’s body. Rather than trying to stuff a woman’s body into an ill-fitting definition, we’ll have a definition that works with what the woman’s body does." Right on Nicole!

Nicole and I arrived at a very similar place in our understanding of female pleasure and orgasm even though the journeys there are very different. I took a wonky underground journey into the land of sacred sexuality where I explored everything from hands on sexual practitioners to Tantra workshops. What I learned, I call "Organic Orgasm"; Nicole refers to it as "Slow Sex" - we are both trying to teach the same concept.

When I first wrote about “Organic Orgasms”, New York Magazine Intel called it “The House of The Un-American Orgasm”. Why the push back? Do people really believe that Organic Orgasms or Slow Sex is about less pleasure? Au Contraire! That thought is so opposite to the truths we have learned and are trying to teach.

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