5 Steps To Vibrator-Free Masturbation

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For women, masturbation is the first step to a great sex life.

A chief aspect of a healthy sex life is a taboo topic for women, and routine for men: masturbation.

Perhaps if female genitalia were as exposed as male bits masturbation would not be such an esoteric concept to some women.

Most women cringe at the word masturbation and its euphemisms like "polishing the peanut”, "finger painting", and "clam bake for one." I like to keep it classy and describe this intimate, personal act as solo love. Because ultimately, if you do not love yourself as a person and know how to love yourself sexually, how can you possibly have pleasurable sex with a partner? Here's the answer: you can't. So starting today, I am campaigning for a battery-free solo love zone! 

We live in a technology-obsessed society. Devices have infiltrated our bedrooms and caused a great deal of pleasure, but also a lot of intimidation and confusion. Have you ever gone shopping for a sex toy? Even the stores are overwhelming! From the From the Silver Bullet vibrator to the Jack Rabbit, the evolving technology of sex toys has frightened women out of exploring and enjoying solo love. 

I'm not against vibrators. In a pinch, sex toys can be useful. However, some women become too dependent and start to avoid real tactile stimulation, denying themselves the joy and sensation of their own touch. You have the power to transform your sex life! We were born with fingers for a reason… (Paws would have been a challenge!) 

There is nothing more empowering than masturbating without the aid of an electronic device. The only way you can truly know yourself sexually is to touch the beautiful gifts you were born with. Ladies, we are so lucky! Men are not able to have lengthy, mind-blowing multiple orgasms. This is the pulsating power of our underground world. So toss your batteries and start exploring! 

Here are 5 simple steps to enjoy Solo Love without batteries: 

1. Start with some landscaping. Don't go crazy; try a nice buzz cut. Leave the Brazilian landscaping for later. Furthermore, you don’t want to contend with the itching related to re-growth. The idea is to make your gem more accessible for pleasure. 

2. Break out a compact mirror. Have you ever truly admired yourself? Do you know where everything is positioned? Do you know how wonderful our underground world is? Grab a mirror and take time to get to know your sexual environment. And while you’re there, enjoy your new landscape! 

3. Touch yourself. Set aside time to reconnect to your sexual source. By exploring and understanding your erogenous zones, you will be able to direct your partner, and be more receptive to receiving his or her touch. 

4. Be patient. Solo love is a true art form, and like any art, mastery takes time. Relax and enjoy. If applicable, set the mood with some wine or music. Use lube if you need a jump-start. There's no need to be shy, it's just you. Do whatever it takes to put yourself in the moment.  

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

Ask yourself these questions regarding Solo Love:  How comfortable am I with masturbation? Is masturbation an active part of my sex life? How often do I incorporate masturbation into my sexual routine? Am I too reliant on electronic devices for masturbation? Am I comfortable discussing masturbation with my partner?  Does masturbation help me convey my desires to my partner during sex? Have a candid conversation with yourself. Address your feelings and assess your comfort level with solo love.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Start to explore solo love without the aid of an electronic device. Take the time to reintroduce yourself to your body and your erogenous zones. Discover what truly pleases you, and what may surprise you. If you are inclined, keep a journal.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Allow solo love to become a regular aspect of your sexual routine. Enjoy the beauty and power of your body. Whether you are single or in a relationship, let your new experiences with masturbation bring you closer to yourself.

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