Take a deep breath, close your eyes, and take yourself back to the very first time you experienced a feeling of love with the person you're in a relationship with now. Allow yourself to re-experience the emotions, the sights, the sounds, the tastes and the smells you first experienced ... just as if it is happening again right now.
Stay there for a moment and allow yourself to feel where in your body you first felt that emotional feeling of love. Is it in your heart? Is it in your head? Is it on your lips? Focus on what your mind was focused on then. Is it the feeling of your heart pounding? Is it how you just seem to melt as your bodies fit together like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle?
Notice how good it feels to be emotionally present with the one you love. What questions run through your mind? Did you find yourself asking, 'Is this what love feels like? Will this feeling last? Is it really possible to fall in love again?'
Did you find it easy to take yourself back and re-experience that falling in love feeling again? Has it been a while since you felt that feeling of love? Which emotions have you been feeling instead? Fear? Guilt? Anger? Anxiety? Jealousy? Frustration? Resentment? Disappointment?
Do you frequently initiate conversations and interactions in a negative emotional state? Or, are you the one dodging the toxic emotions as they are launched at you by the one you love? Has it happened so often for so long that it's just too difficult to tell? Are you concerned that your love and your relationship are being destroyed as a result?
Our emotions are like most things. They're not bad, except in excess. It is natural to experience anger, fear, anxiety, disappointment, resentment, judgment, and guilt ... on occasion. However, negative emotions become all-consuming, toxic, and devastating to our emotional health and our intimate relationships if we fail to deal with them effectively. Continue Reading.
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