Thanksgiving doesn’t need to be just time for family gatherings. I’ve been single for many years, alternating with 3 months here, 6 months there as part of a couple.
Unless the man I meet today after my writing class grabs those chemistry vibes I hope for, I may be on my own on November 22. Hey, great! I may be at my son’s or my daughter’s for the big turkey meal. But whether I am or not, I can think of 6 things that would make that Thursday stand out. http://pleasuresandponderings.blogspot.com/2009/11/experience-of-awareness-i-had-today-11.html
1) I have men friends, including past lovers, who may also have the day free. We could eat out, even using the Entertainment Book’s 2-for-1’s, or we could try on the rare activity of ice or roller skating, or see a movie at home or in the theater with popcorn. We’d be open to each other’s suggestions at the moment, as well. Spontaneity can be a delightful part of a get-together.
2) Three or more of my single friends, men and women, might gather for a potluck. After we ate to our fill, we would share stories of growing-up holidays, or sit by the fireplace and share camping experiences. We’d tell jokes and share pranks we’d pulled on our friends. Or we’d share all we were grateful for. Or we’d play Mars and Venus board game, where either gender would read a sentence from a card, such as, “How I know I am special to my partner” and the 3 choices, such as “He tells me he loves me” or “He takes me out on a date every week” or “He listens without giving me advice.” The other gender would guess the choice the reader would pick, and then both sexes would share their answers. A fun way to know others more deeply.
3) If one or more single friends had a cabin or an inexpensive lodging they liked to visit, we’d set off Wed. night or Thurs. morning for a 1 to 2 hour ride, commenting on the still colorful leaves, the valleys, the rivers along the freeway, and what was giving us pleasure this month. We could spend the day on trails, if the weather suited us, or bring out games if all were interested in them. We might choose to play poker or bridge or pinochle at our lodging or at a café. There would be some I’d gather with who’d enjoy reading our own or others’ poetry or prose to each other. If there were a fireplace in the lobby, that would be a good place to mellow out in the evening.