5 Things You Should NEVER Do When Choosing Mr. Right

5 Things You Should NEVER Do When Choosing A Boyfriend

This is one checklist you want to leave blank.

Whether you are looking for a new boyfriend or Mr. Right, you might want to follow these guidelines:

1. Don't accept the one who doesn't have a career/ doesn't earn anything.

Stay away from such a man even if you are all mushy and dying for his love. It's a big no right from the start and if you are foolish enough to ignore it, guess you'll have a heavy price to pay for your choice. A man without work has low self esteem and self worth, will most likely be broken emotionally and still needs to find his way in life.

He's lost and wouldn't value you for what you are and any amount of financial or emotional help from you will not soothe or awaken the 'man' in him or get him onto his path. His life is a big mess and you will become another part of that chaos. It's simply not worth it. Don't even tread the path of love with such a guy unless you are ready to undergo immense pain.

2. Never approve of a manipulator.

Little promises kept, tell you a lot about a man's character. When he says, he'll call, he calls; when he promises to be there at a certain time, he is — these seemingly unimportant actions unveils his true self. A true man doesn't manipulate his actions and words in order to get your approval or avoid a conflict. Sticking to his words reveals his value system and how much he honors himself and you.

But being with a man who doesn't honor his words and keeps justifying his actions by lying is to be with someone who is not true to himself. You will be on tenterhooks all the time wondering whether to trust him or not. You will begin to question his intentions and motives and eventually become insecure. He is very likely to cause extreme anxiety and drive you nuts.

The argument you are likely to give yourself might be, "I can see through him and even if he thinks he can fool me, he can't. I can handle this," but that's only gonna complicate matters. Beware!

3. Recognize if he's a weak conversationalist.

Passion and attraction can turn women blind temporarily, but what makes a relationship last are the real things. Never be with a man with whom you can't have a real conversation and can't share yourself honestly and truly.

Talking and sharing comes naturally to women and it is an instinctive part of their emotional fabric. So to be able to talk about everything that is going on inside them, their man is primary and crucial for the growth of the relationship. A woman needs to feel the comfort of being in a man's company and needs the emotional and intellectual kick, via talks, to foster her own growth as well as that of a man's. It is mandatory to make the relationship work. Interesting and stimulating conversation are the fuel to keep the relationship alive and kicking. Don't under estimate its importance ever.

4. Don't ignore his poor sense of humor, run from it.

Stay away from a man who takes life too seriously and laughs rarely. A man who doesn't laugh often is very unlikely to make you laugh too. A man with a naughty streak will look at life's problems with a more positive attitude and is more likely to handle them better and more maturely than the cynical ones who take every obstacle too seriously and refuse to look at the brighter side of life.

Time will fly with a man who makes you smile and laugh all the time, and life will be a cake walk even when problems plague it. It's a quality that will add immense value to the relationship — always remember.

5. NEVER settle for mediocre sex.

Don't settle for anything that doesn't make you go insane, sexually. Most women settle for mediocre sex thinking this is the best they can get or assuming it's not a bad bargain if the rest of the things in a relationship are in place. Nothing is farther from truth than this illusion.

Sex (passion) is the most potent force that will drive your life and it is a cardinal need that cannot be replaced by any other. Sex is directly related to your self worth and choosing to be with a man who gives you less than what you deserve or falling for a man where there is no apparent chemistry between both of you, is calling for bitterness, resentment and pain in the longer run. Wait for the one who will set your soul aflame rather than settle for someone who can barely take care of your body's needs. Sex is all about the soul, not the body. It has to be deep — in—your—bones kind of sex, penetrating your soul and keeping your heart alive kind of connection. Don't compromise.


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