Is the man you love distancing himself from you? Does something feel “off” about his behavior in your relationship? If you feel chronically distraught about the state of things and are desperately trying to keep him interested, you may actually be pushing him further away.
If you are pushing him away, it’s not your fault. We women have been trained to treat men like prizes. When we have a good man in our grasp, we can’t help but worry that we might lose him. It's like we are in a constant state of worry, wondering if today is going to be the day that we are rejected and put back out there on the brutal dating scene.
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Obsessive Thoughts About How To Keep Him Interested
Our emotions get so entangled in a man’s every move. Deep down we know that if we could just keep him interested and snag his attention, everything about our lives would be okay.
I used to feel this way. I put so much pressure on myself to behave the “right” way. I quietly agonized over what I should reply back to a man in a text message, or how long I should wait to call him. I nagged my friends with questions about when to bring up a chat with a man about something like commitment or whether it was okay if I planned a date.
I worried about this when I was married too: “Why is he in a bad mood, is it something I did?”; “Should I wake him up to talk about my feelings or should I let him sleep?”; “What can I do to grab his attention and keep him interested so that I can avoid losing him to another woman?”
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When Your Self-Esteem Suffers
Constantly worrying about a man’s lack of interest in the relationship can make you crazy. You soon start to question everything you do and you feel like nothing you do for him is going to ultimately keep his interest.
It’s draining and exhausting to work so hard at love. It also makes you feel jealous and irritated. You start comparing yourself to other women and beating yourself up over each and every flaw. You feel like you could somehow keep his interest if you were more perfect in a hundred different ways: better looking, better in bed, funnier, more smiley, more confident on dates… and the list goes on.
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