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How Matchmakers Can Help You Find Love At ANY Age

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Your true love IS out there.

When you meet the love of your life, you should know it ... right? Heads up, you might be getting in your own way of knowing who's "the one" for you!

That's where Arlene Vasquez, Founder of AVConnexions Matchmaking Services stepped in and guided a special (anonymous) candidate to get out of her own way, open herself up to love, and truly find the man of her dreams; in July 2015 she will be getting married for the first time at 60 years old!

The "candidate", an MD, walked into the AVConnexions offices for a standard one-on-one consultation, looking for acceptance into the AVConnexions candidate database.

During the conversation she began speaking about her great loves that she had lost or erred with, and it turned out she was referring to men from 10+ years ago! She was living in the past and damaging her future potential to find love.

She was, however, a fit and attractive, successful doctor with an openness and willingness to accept help where she needed it, so we accepted her as a candidate with AVConnexions.

She went through the on-boarding process, which included a professional photo shoot for fabulous pictures, and began to attend events hosted by AVConnexions to bring singles together. Unfortunately, her look was in need of some freshening up with new clothes and a new hairstyle.  

Around the holiday time in December of 2014, a staunch German man very demanding in his "requirements" for a match and seemingly "rigid" in character, requested a meeting with Arlene Vasquez, founder and matchmaker at AVConnexions.

Her candidate, the doctor, and this German man—very prominent in the pharmaceutical industry and eager for a partner within the medical community—seemed a potential match. Arlene's team at AVConnexions did not agree!

They doubted the match, but Arlene felt sure she saw potential there. She decided she'd start the introduction, but first her candidate would have to agree to work with AVConnexions' image consultant, Lisa Emelo. With her new look and newfound confidence, and his readiness to meet someone both parties agreed to meet for a blind date.

The German client confided in Arlene concerning his anxieties about his date, and Arlene provided a pre-date coaching session beforehand to suppress his doubts. Since he would not be seeing the woman or even a picture beforehand, he was unsure about the match, albeit willing to try the date.

Arlene told him to bring in some pictures of women he found attractive, and one of the pictures looked just like the candidate! Arlene knew she was onto something for sure! She quelled his doubts and sent him on for the test: the introduction blind date.

Lo and behold, the German client was smitten! The candidate, however, was unsure ... she found him a little bit too rigid and inflexible. 

Without the other knowing it, both the German client and the candidate were looking to Certified Matchmaker and Relationship Coach, Arlene Vasquez for constant advice on how to deal with their situation. 

He, asking about how to proceed with the woman and get her interested, and she, wondering if she should pursue this opportunity, and being met with a resounding "yes!" from her team at AVConnexions. She needed guidance and she took it.

She got out of her own way, pushing away fears, doubts, and skepticism and ended up dating the German client.

After a complete 30-pound slimdown and life-style change for her German boyfriend (in one of the candidate's unsure, fault-finding moments, she complained he was potbellied, and used her medical skills and knowledge to fix him up!), the candidate and German client had a year-long relationship behind them.

At one year, to the date, the German took his girlfriend out to the same place of their very first blind date, and proposed! The now radiant, younger looking, bright lipstick-wearing doctor has found the man of her dreams and she'll marry for the first time, all because she was willing to listen to advice and get out of her own way.

Would she have pursued a relationship with the German of her own accord? No way! But with the love, patience, and guidance of AVConnexions, and a willingness to look at things differently, the candidate found her match and is on her way to the princess wedding she's always dreamed of.


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