Sick of hanging out at Heartbreak Hotel? Here's what it takes to finally move on and find love ...
Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and take yourself back to the exact moment your partner dumped you. Do you remember the first thoughts that popped into your head?
Did they sound something like this?
- "I'm never going to let myself fall in love again. This hurts so much."
- "He promised me unconditional love forever. I wonder what I did wrong."
- "He was my soulmate. Nobody will ever love me like he did." (Let's hope not!)
Anything sound familiar? I thought so. The first one was exactly what I told myself.
Now, take another deep breath, hit the erase button in your mind, and pay close attention.
I'm about to give you the exact formula for unconditional love that almost guarantees you will attract the perfect future partner, fall in love again, and experience unconditional love faster than you ever thought possible. You must follow this plan exactly.
Would that make you happy? Great ... let's get started.
Step 1: Grab your journal and a pen, and create a "Perfect Partner" list.
Start with your top 10 "must have" qualities and attributes in an ideal partner. Then, add 10 "nice to have" qualities to the list. Complete the list by adding 5-10 qualities and attributes that are your deal breakers (the qualities you absolutely can't or refuse to overlook).
Make three copies of your list. Put one in your purse, give one to your best friend, and hide the third one in the same place you hide your valuable documents. I'll tell you why in a minute.
Step 2: Create your own "vision board."
Grab 5-10 of your favorite magazines, a pair of scissors, some tape, and a 16 X 20 piece of construction paper. You're going to create a vision board, which will serve as your "Unconditional Love Blueprint."
Your job is to capture the pictures, headlines, and stories in the magazines that create the, "Awwww, I want that feeling" response when you look through the magazines. Be sure and include images of couples that look how you want to look when you're in a relationship again, saying and doing the things you want to say and do ... in love.
Cut them out and place them on your vision board. There's no right or wrong way to do this, just make sure you get it done. I'll tell you why in a minute.
Step 3: Create your "Unconditional Love Language" list.
Make a list of AT LEAST 20 loving statements your "Perfect Partner" will be using in your relationship that absolutely make you feel special, loved unconditionally, and appreciated for being you.
Make 5 copies of your list. Put one in your purse, give one to your best friend, and hide the third one in the place you hide your valuable documents. Take the fourth copy and cut the statements into individual pieces.
Grab a piece of tape and secure each of the loving statements with tape around your house in full view. Be sure and put one on each of your mirrors, above your computer screen, and on your toilet lid. You want to make sure you see them everywhere. I'll tell you why in a minute.
What does every woman and need to know about unconditional love?
Anyone who has experienced being "dumped" by a partner who promised unconditional love forever, often experiences a loss of confidence, self-esteem, and ability to trust yourself and others.
The loss of those qualities, at the very least, create a self-fulfilling prophecy and place you at risk of attracting someone like you who is also experiencing the same lack of confidence, self-esteem, and ability to trust.
It's certainly not the best formula for attracting the perfect partner, falling in love again, experiencing unconditional love again and creating a healthy, lasting relationship.
Let me ask you this: What have you been saying about yourself and how have you been treating yourself since the breakup? Have you been loving yourself unconditionally or beating yourself up? Have you been focusing on meeting the perfect partner and attracting potential partners with the exact qualities you want?
You have to embody, act like, do, and say all of the things you pulled together in steps 1-3. You MUST practice providing the unconditional love and support you want and deserve for yourself so you'll know exactly what it feels like, and be able to recognize it when the perfect partner shows up in your life.
I know I didn't at first after being dumped. I remember kissing a lot of frogs and wondering if my "pick-a-mate meter" was permanently broken. That is, until I decided I was sick of feeling the loss of confidence, self-esteem, and unconditional love.
I decided I was worth it and deserved it, completed steps 1-3 above, and started treating myself differently.
I gave myself unconditional love and filled myself up.
What I didn't realize then that I know now, is that I was teaching others how to treat me, building confidence, self-esteem, and trust in myself, modeling how to thrive following adversity for my son, and practicing how to love unconditionally until I attracted the perfect healthy partner for me, which I did.
Truth is, you will have confidence, self-esteem, and the ability to trust yourself and others if you love yourself unconditionally. You'll be full, have enough to share, and can pass it along. When that happens, I can almost guarantee you'll attract the perfect partner, fall in love again, and experience unconditional love in spite of being dumped. Make sense?
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