7 Things You Need To Know About Sex

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7 Things You Need To Know About Sex [EXPERT]
There is more to sex than arousal, intercourse and orgasm.

Everybody thinks they know everything they need to know about sex. However, if it was so simple, there wouldn't be so many people in need of sex therapy, marriage and relationship counseling, and there certainly wouldn't be so many relationships ending in divorce.

The lack of knowledge about sex coupled with the lack of education leads to a lack of communication and a lack of coping skills when it comes to dealing with issues having to do with sex, which, in the end, is the downfall of many relationships. 5 Ways To Occupy Love

 

We learn much of what we know about relationships from TV or movies. We learn that there is happily ever after. We learn that our partners will fulfill all of our needs — sexual, physical, mental, financial and so on — and we become sad and feel disillusioned when we learn our lives are different than what is being depicted on TV. TV is not the bible of relationships, and movies aren't the answer for sex.

We live in a time where too many people believe that sex is all about arousal, intercourse, and lastly orgasm. If one or both members involved didn't orgasm, then something is wrong or the sex is bad.

The medical industry has spent millions of dollars capitalizing on the idea of erectile dysfunction. Men are going out in droves to get Viagra or Cialis to "cure" them of the supposed arousal problem. There is even talk of a drug for women who don't get lubricated enough. But, much of this is based on false knowledge than truths.

Here are seven truths you need to know about sex:

1. There is more to sex than getting aroused, having intercourse and achieving orgasm. Yes. It's time to get creative and realistic about what is sex. Sex is kissing, hugging, and sensual massage. Sex is oral stimulation, manual stimulation, mutual masturbation, and anal stimulation. Sex is talking dirty, reading erotica, watching pornography together, role play and sharing fantasies. Broaden your concept of sex, lessen your pressure and increase your enjoyment and pleasure.

2. Arousal ebbs and flows. Did you know that you can be mentally aroused but not show symptoms of arousal? Just because a woman is not wet, or a man is not erect does not indicate lack of arousal. Yes, it is true. Sometimes it takes our body time to catch up with our mind. This is normal and should not be considered a dysfunction or an issue. I hate the term erectile dyfunction for this reason. This puts unrealistic pressure on men, when having differences and changes in size, intensity and duration of erections. This is all part of the natural cycle of human nature.

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Moushumi Ghose

Sex Therapist

Moushumi Ghose, MFT specializes in sex and relationships and is based in New York City and Los Angeles.

Mou is the host of The Sex Talk, a web-series dedicated to raising awarenes about sex, and sexuality, and has made several TV and media appearances including Hollywood Today The Girl Spot, Durex Condoms and Investigation Discoveries as a sex expert. 

Mou is the band leader, composer and voice of the rock band Ghosha.

Visit her website at www.LASexTherapist.com

Subscribe to The Sex Talk Series at www.TheSexTalkSeries.com

Listen to podcasts at Sex, Love and Rock 'N' Roll Radio.

Mou is the author of Marriage, Money and Porn, available on Amazon, and is currently writing her second book, about non-monogamous sex. 

 

Follow Moushumi on Twitter @MoushumiAmour and Facebook

Location: New York, NY
Credentials: LMFT, MA, MFT
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